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Parents meeting for the first time
This weekend my fiance and I are having an engagment party/meet and greet. Our parents have never met before and they are pretty opposite in every way. I'm a little nervous to see how it goes...
Re: Parents meeting for the first time
My advice - don't overthink it. Make the introductions and let them handle it. Is there ANY common ground? If so, bring that up as a topic. Heck, it can even be a place they've both traveled to. Just throw something out that might get them talking.
But realize that you can't force anything. Just hope that they all are polite and civil to each other. If they all fall in love and become great friends, awesome. But if they really are so different and there isn't much common ground and all they are is civil and polite - that's fine too.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
unless they're jerks or something they'll get along fine.
I'm sure it'll be fine. Just give them the heads up if they feel strongly about anything(oh by the way H's family doesn't drink alcohol, or "Just so you know H's family says grace before every meal" or "Heads up H's family has a pet monkey that likes to jump on guests"...so that they're not caught in any awkward situations. Really though unless their all insane it'll go great.
I think it's great that you are having the parents over during a party. DH & I had our parents over for dinner to meet - just the 6 of us. It was like an awkward, blind first date. My dad is a HUGE talker and DH's parent's - not so much...even my dad had his silent moments and was at a loss for words!
My advice to you, don't put too many expectations on it. As long as they are respectful of eachother and cordial - that's all you need.
I thought to myself, "Oh no, our parents aren't turning into bff's...whatever will we do?!". But really, that's life - people are different.
I do also like Lilblackdresses's advice in saying that maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to prep each parent side with a tip or two of maybe topics they should be aware of (i.e. not drinkers, stay away from political and/or religious topics, etc.).
This and PP that also said to suggest common ground. MH is very shy, but every once in a while, due to my job, we have to go to dinner with the bank executives. I know this is not the same thing as the parents meeting, but I bring it up to say that I always try to point out something about the host that MH has in common with them. For instance, MH is a huge hockey fan, and our regional manager has season tickets to a local hockey team. Now every time they talk, even if it's an awkward situation, they both have something to talk about (our regional manager is really good about remembering that kind of thing about his employees and their spouses).