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O.M.G.
I got an e-mail via FB at like 3:00am from a girl stating she has been having an affair with DH for 3 months... So I wake him up and confront him. He adamently denies it all.
I got pissed, left and went over to my mom's and told him he needed to get his stuff and stay with his mom while I think about what I want.
He just admitted via FB chat that he lied, and he had sex with her 4 times.... last was on Saturday. So we had our 1 year anniversary, got pregnant and had a 2nd miscarriage, all while he was having an affair.
I am at a loss.
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Re: O.M.G.
OMG, my jaw just hit the floor. I am SO sorry you are going through this. I can't even imagine what you are feeling.
You've been through so much lately and now this. T's & P's your way. Keep us updated, if you feel comfortable, of course.
That's just horrible! I'm so sorry you are going through all this.
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Oh my god. This is unbelievable.
I'm so sorry.
I can't even imagine...
You're in my thoughts
*hug*
OMG...
I am so so sorry. I'd have to send him packin! Hopefully you have lots of good support during this difficult time.
DD #1 {04-19-2004}
Secondary IF: Severe MFI (low testosterone, low count, low morph, & very low motility) & Annovulation
After 22 months IUI # 3 Clomid + Follistim = BFP
DD #2 {12-31-2009}
2 more years of failed IF treatments and a failed adoption TTC #3
TTC Journey Over~ Not By Choice
OMG I am so sorry that he did such a terrible selfish thing especially after all that you have been through. ((hugs)) Please let us know if you need anything...you'll be in my thoughts!!
I talked to his gf. Yes, gf. She never knew about me. And I never knew about her. She broke up with him because she found out about me.
It wasn't just sex. It was a relationship. While I was working nights. Complete with "i can't wait to move in with you."
Wow... that takes some serious nerve.
I'm so sorry! Let me know if you need anything at all... driver so you can go get trashed, help moving, a shovel (jk, sorta)... ya know... anything.
How did she find you on fb? That's crazy.
OMG. I can't believe he's done this to you!!! I am just so blown away!!! How did she find out about you?
via facebook. he never added her as a friend, so she never saw his status. when he stopped calling and his google phone number that he set up for her texts/called was disconnected all of a sudden, she got suspicious. found his brother's facebook, saw my name, saw my profile pic of us together and saw that it said i was married to him.
it started on july 5, before this last pregnancy/miscarriage and 1 year anniversary happened. so he was sleeping with me trying to get pregnant while he was sleeping with her.
It's so surreal. He had a RELATIONSHIP with her... And says that all the stuff he said to her (believe me, she told me) was "just talk" and he didn't mean any of it... and that he never once thought of leaving me and wants to be together and make it work....
I am pretty sure I can't do that..
This is the part that makes me the most upset for you. The fact that he had a whole second life with her that neither of you knew about. It is more then just physical cheating at that point. He really really REALLY screwed up. I think he would benifit from counceling. And if you are going to give him another chance you might benifit from it as well. Though, like you... I am pretty sure I could NEVER get past all of that. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this!
I don't think anybody would blame you for not wanting to work things out. While I would never be grateful for having to go through the pain, loss and heartache of m/c's, at least now it affords you the option of cutting him out of your life completely, if you so choose, whereas you couldn't if you two had kids together.
My SIL went through something similar (though he up and disappeared for days with the girl) and she's stayed with him because of their 3 girls. They're doing better now several years later but I don't think she'll ever fully get over it.
Many, many hugs from the bottom of my heart.
WOW. Unbelievable.
Lean on your family and close friends right now. I'm so sorry you are going through this.
P.S. I hope that doesn't sound like you shouldn't post on here about it. That totally isn't what I meant. Just that my mom found out this past Memorial Day weekend that my stepdad was cheating on her (20 years of marriage!). Actually, I found out by coming to their house unexpected that weekend and heard them in bed together. So, he had to come clean at that point.
At any rate, their divorce was final just a couple weeks ago. My mom was in hell at first, and although she still is somewhat, she is doing so much better. I know that having LOTS of support from family and friends helped so much. It's still a mess, and she's still hurting, but she's starting to envision life without him, and is doing much better now.
I definitely would not tell you what you should or shouldn't do regarding your marriage. But I think it is COMPLETELY reasonable and understandable to leave him. The whole double life thing is totally insane! Cheating is never ok, but to go to that length to do it (with the google phone number and all - crazy!!), it definitely shows a lot about his character. I totally understand if you could never get over it.
At any rate, let your friends and family be there to help you through this. And remember that this is HIS loss. Not yours.
What an ***!
Your in my thoughts and prayers!
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