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First holiday season without MIL
MIL passed away unexpectedly in February; holidays were important to her, and she made sure it was a big deal for the family. I've talked to DH, and asked him which traditions are important to carry on, and he's given me a list, which is relatively short (in comparison to everything she used to do).
I'd like to incorporate some new, subtle, but memorable, holiday traditions this year. My goal is to minimize the void I know he'll be feeling, but also trying to start building new/happy memories.
Looking for some ideas. What are some of your holiday traditions?
Me: 35 DH: 37 TTC since 4/2010
DX: 6/9/2011: Azoo ICSI/IVF only option for biological child
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DX: 6/9/2011: Azoo ICSI/IVF only option for biological child
IVF #1: ER - 9/26 * ET - 10/1 * beta#1 10/13 - 140 * beta#2 10/17 - 477 * beta#3 10/20 - 1101
1st u/s at 6w6d - one hb * 2nd u/s at 8w3d - no hb detected 11/10/11 * natural m/c 11/13/11
FET #1 Jan/Feb 2012 - 3 delays - cancelled 2/13
FET #1.2 - May/June 2012 - ET 6/6/* beta#1 6/15 - 95 * beta #2 6/19 - 322 * beta #3 6/22 - 940
7/6 1st u/s @ 7 weeks - one beautiful hb - released from RE
EDD 2/22/2013
PAIF/SAIF/PGAL welcome
Re: First holiday season without MIL
Thanksgiving night, after dinner we watch Natil. Lampoon's Christmas Vacation. I also watch It's a Wonderful life with my Mom sometime that weekend too. That weekend after Thanksgiving, we drive out to a tree farm and cut down our christmas trees with our family, then go out to eat at the same place after.
I want to start doing a certain meal the day before thanksgiving, something easy like pizza or chinese and watch Planes, Trains & Automobiles.
DH & I go out to lunch for our anniversary (in Dec.) and then to Macy's to pick out our yearly ornament together.
I remember my mom always baking tons of cookies when we were kids, and putting them in pretty tins and placed them under the tree for us to eat whenever.
Are there any recipes your MIL made, only at the holidays? See if someone has the recipe, and you can carry that on.
Awe, your poor husband
I would talk to some of the women in his family, like his sisters/cousins/aunts. Women are sometimes more attuned to these sorts of things, being that women are usually the cooker/decorator/planner for big family holidays. They might have some good ideas for things that are new and fresh, but still have the same "feel" as some of MILs favorite things. Even something as simple as burning her favorite candle scent (which he may not know , or have ever consciously noticed) could be really nice for him.
Good luck.