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Another MIL Story for your entertainment!
As many of you know, my MIL is not the nicest or most considerate person. She has never liked me!
Well, with the holidays approaching, she sent an email to all her children, asking that we forgo gifts for adults this year (I actually agree) and just buy for the children and babies.
To the funny part: In this email, she referenced FIL's birthday (during the Christmas holiday) and how they are planning a big party on Christmas since it is a monumental year for him. She knows her everyone has their own families now, but expects at least her children to be there (in the email). I am due to have our first child one week before Christmas Day. In what world would someone get in a car for 3 hours to drive to a party less than one week after leaving the hospital? Does she expect us to plan around a natural birth? Does she expect my DH to leave me alone either over-due, in the hospital, or right after getting home from the hospital? Did she forget about when we are due?
To those who may think I am overreacting, please reference older posts- my MIL is irrational and crazy.
I am not really looking for advice, just sharing a funny story. I am at the point where I just laugh at her attempts to derail us! My DH knows we are not going and has gotten very good at handling his M. I trust he will take care of her 
This story is just for my nest friends who have helped me see that she is not worth my tears, frowns, effort or concern!
Re: Another MIL Story for your entertainment!
If she's crazy and irrational, why would you expect rational thinking and behavior from her in regard to the timing of your new baby being born?
And yet you're spazzing about this. Relax. DH will e-mail MIL and say "We probably won't be able to make it given the birth of your grandchild is around that time. We'll drop off presents at a different time."
That's all it has to be. MIL can be as insane as she wants. You know she's insane, you know she says crap. Expect it, and don't react.
If she expects H to come to the party when you're either overdue, in the hospital or just getting home, she IS crazy and irrational.
Ditto.
That's really unreasonable.
Wait, if I'm remembering correctly, the OP's MIL refuses to acknowledge that she's pregnant at all. Is that still the case?
She is "having another grandchild" in December. She still has not said word one to me about the child. She has literally not spoken to me since I got PG.
I just wish I could see her face when DH calls her tonight and says no!
You say this like it's a bad thing. She seems like the type of person where no communication = good communication.
I just feel bad for DH b/c his child does not get the same treatment that his nieces and nephews get. Personally, I find life easier when I do not have to schedule trips to visit and deal with the woe-is-me phone calls anymore.
It can be disconcerting to know that she does not care, but her actions always prove that laughing at her is a better use of my life than caring about what she thinks or does.
I agree. Let MIL not "acknowledge" you or your pregnancy...you sound better off!
She very much reminds me of my MIL where she only wants to be involved when things only pertain to her or when she can be in the limelight. Real, adult things that take effort, she wants no parts in.
DH may have to "dumb down" the response to her by saying, "Hi Mom, remember, that SO and I are PG? (in a patronizing tone) Well, it appears that doctors can set due dates, but unfortunately, as you may be aware having had children, babies don't often stick to those due dates..".