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BLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
Okay, I got that out. That was my "what the eff is going on with me" noise.
I have been in a funk since yesterday evening. A lot of little things are adding up.
Not getting to see DH that much while he's been doing field work is really getting to me. He's only home for a few hours and when he's here he tunes me out so he can watch sports (the sports are fine with me, we always watch sports together). I am getting really, really sick of him telling me that I don't tell him about things that are going on because he never listens when I do tell him. When he does talk to me it's usually pointing out things that I do wrong and lecturing me about them, or teasing me about things which I can usually handle when I see him more than a couple hours a day. I need to have a serious talk with him and I'm dreading it. I'm torn between whether it's me thinking his expectations of me are too high or if they are actually too high.
Also down about my inability to control my eating. Once my pants fit I was thinking I was doing pretty good and I got off track. I do this every single time I lose weight which is why I never go lower than a couple lbs. below my start weight.
Also about going back to work. After my baby shower last Wednesday my bubble burst about this illusion I had that things were going to be better when I went back. I figured it was only my attitude that affected my ability to be good at my job but turns out other people are going to make it that much harder too.
All of it just makes me feel like I have no control over anything.
Add in the hormones and fatigue and you've got a funk. I'm snapping out of it though RIGHT NOW.
Thankfully the baby is wonderful and right now prefers me over
everything. She's smiling and cooing now and it's so adorable. That
helps my mood a little bit. 
Vent over. Thanks for listening. This happens to me every once in awhile and I just have to whine to someone and then I get better.
Re: BLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
Repeat after me:
You only control your actions; not actions of others.
I know you're dreading the convo w/ YH but it is for the best- communicating and letting everything out in the open. It may not be pretty; if it were me I would say what my goal is (e.g. to see you more than x hours a day, to make a compromise of what expectations are realistic, etc)
(((hugs)))
I'm sending you hugs and leftover Halloween candy from me.
I felt like you when I got ready to go back to work. I had the baby blues pretty bad. H wasn't helping out with JJ, I was stressed about going back to my job [which i also thought would get better while i was gone, but nope - got worse], my hormones were all over the place...but at some point, you have to stop and take care of yourself. Listen to what I have to say:
1. You're beautiful just the way you are, and you're an amazing person. Don't worry about the weight - it'll come off. Trust me.
2. Have that convo with your H. Be more open with him. I quit really talking to my H last year because he wasn't listening, and we had major issues. When I finally started really talking to him, he finally started listening. Communicating and compromising are so important.
3. I hope you applied for that job you were talking about a few weeks ago. I think it's time for a change and for you to go to a place where they actually appreciate you and don't make your job hard.
I know it's kinda hard to shake yourself out of a funk, but just take your time, enjoy that beautiful baby girl of yours, and it'll all even out. **hugs**
First, breathe.
Second, listen to everyone else.
Weight is what it is - I'm not ecstatic with mine either, but you know what? In the grand scheme it doesn't matter. You're beautiful and you have a good (except maybe right now) husband and a beautiful baby. Lose it or don't lose it, but be happy.
As for the job, apply for others and get the hell out of there. E's noticed the job market opening up a bit recently, so it can for you too.
And as for your H, bite the bullet and have that conversation. It's hard, but your relationship will be tons better for it.
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