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NFR: But etiquette question
But is not family related but you ladies always give rational, level-headed advice, so I thought I'd ask over here since I don't follow many boards.
I am having a small (about 20 people) graduation brunch (sitdown) for my DH who is graduating with his MBA in December. I am inviting a friend of ours who DH has been friends with since college, but we mostly see in group settings. At a wedding this September he brought his girlfriend, who we had never met and have never seen since. Even when a smaller group of us gets together, his girlfriend is always invited, but he never brings her.
My question is this, I don't know her last name, nor do I know if they are still dating (haven't gotten together with him since this wedding). Do I just include a note in the invitation letting him know she is invited? Do I email and ask for her last name to include on the invitation? My thought on this is that it could be awkward if they are no longer together. This is obviously a much less formal situation than a wedding, but I still don't want to be rude.
Re: NFR: But etiquette question
This is where I would check his facebook status lol.
but I'm guessing that's not an option...so I think I'd probably just put her name on the invite (just her first name) if they broke up he'll let you know, if they haven't broken up then you look nice for including her in the invite.
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This.
Can you ask someone else in your group of friends?
This
Agreed.
Ok, I agree with this, too.
Address the envelope to him; and put both first names only on the inviation, if it is informal.
However, I personally would just call him and ask him.
BTW - facebook was my saviour when sending out my wedding invitations so check that first.
A lot of times men will bring girlfriends - even ones they are not serious about - to weddings b/c weddings are such couple things, and they don't want to be left out, sitting around while couples are together, etc. Most other functions (like your lunch) aren't quite the same.
I would call and say "we're sending you and invite to H's graduation lunch. Are you still dating Jane? Because you are welcome to bring her." If he says no, then you can ask "are you dating anyone else? I'll put their name on the invite."
This is a friend of your H, you shouldn't feel awkward about asking if they have a g.f. IMO, that's not too personal a question for a friend who is one of 20 people you are inviting to a lunch for your dh!
Thanks ladies! I agree - Facebook was amazing for wedding invites. His relationship status is blank which I don't think I can take to mean anything as he's not a big Facebooker.
I have asked a few other people and none of them know either - I'm not surprised, tends to fly under the radar with these things. I talked to the bride of the recent wedding and she said although she invited him with a plus one, he called 2 days before the wedding to say he was now bringing someone.
this 100%