What do you wear to a wake/funeral?

bostonbaker

I bought some gray pants and a black sweater to wear to my grandma's funeral a few years ago.  I wear that outfit to work sometimes (like today) and can't help but think of it as my funeral outfit.  When one of my high school friend's grandmother died, I remember her talking at the wake about her new dress that she bought for the occasion - it was bright and floral.  I thought that was really weird.  Just curious what everyone else does.

PunkyBooster

I'm in dark clothing. I wore grey slacks and a black sweater to my uncle's funeral. My cousin showed up like she was going to a cocktail party. Ridiculous.

We attended a wake for a friend's brother a month or 2 ago. I wore a dark purple wrap dress and flats. 

2 other funerals attended in recent years- I just wore a dark pantsuit. 

AndreaB111

I agree with Punky. Go dark, but not necessarily black. Gray, navy, eggplant, hunter green, etc. The last wake I went to was last winter, and I wore a black pencil skirt, white button-down, and a gray jacket.

I definitely heard somewhere that wearing black is out now, but I think floral a bit inappropriate IMO.

ccbean034

both of H's grandparents passed away last winter. i think i ended up wearing black pants, with a white button down shirt and a grey sweater and black pumps to one, and grey pants with a white camisole and a black sweater and black pumps to the other.

i don't think its necessary to wear all black but definitely darker neutral colors. i couldn't imagine wearing florals or something bright.

KiwiChampagne

I tend to go dark if not all black.  I wore a black suit to my grandma's wake funeral a few years ago. 

Last year I was pregnant when my nana passed so I had less options. I wore kahkis and a black sweater for the wake and black pants with a grey sweater for the funeral. 

 ETA: Everytime I wore the black and grey outfit after that it reminded me of the funeral.

camedowncrushing

I always wear dark.  I have two black dresses that I have only worn to funeral/wakes.  Both are really conservative, and simple---but nice.  It is strange to see how some people dress.  We went to a wake for SIL's FI"s Father and one of his siblings wife was dressed like she was going to go clubbing.  She had this ridiculous tight beige dress on, and looked awful in it.  I could not help but stare at her.  SIL told me that the wife had worn the same dress to a wedding the week before.  Strange.

taylormcl118

I'm usually in dark clothing as well..maybe not always black or grey..the last funeral i went to i wore grey pants and a white button down with a dark purple vneck sweater over it..i think prints are okay if they are more on the muted and not loud side..bright and floral i think is a little much though.

cglibra

I'd stick w/dark colors (but white is ok too if it's a shirt). I would not wear bright florals/colors (especially red).