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3rd drink of the night b*tching :) (CRAZY bro in law!)
HI all...sorry if English is a little off tonight. Celebrating finishing grad school midterm with my 3rd drink of the night. weee!!! 0:)
So OMG brother in law and future sister in law have got to be most oblivious, myopic people ever. *run-on warning* Both me and husband's families are back in Michigan (me and dh live in CA) and husband's brother recently moved to florida to be with his fiance before they get married and finish buying/closing on a house together while living with her parents in the meantime (might i add that this is BIL's first real gf and they met/built their relationship online from 2 different states and JUST got engaged in like July....Whatever, that's their own prerogative, not judging..they are both like 22 or 23 though, if that adds to the equation). Other side note, BIL has NEVER lived outside of his parent's house, never went away to school, never done own laundry or cooked dinner and spends all of his time playing a certain online role-playing game when he's not working retail. Whatever,he's a nice guy, I love him, but think he's TOTALLY rushing into being an adult and playing "house".
All of a sudden, they're in a GINORMOUS rush to get married in FL, as in, around the holidays, and give everyone one month's notice that they're having the wedding in FL in the middle of Dec (rest of the fam lives in MI and chicago, I might add, and would be CRUSHED if they weren't able to go!)....(btw, do you know how much flights are this time of year????) I digress....
Okay, I know the wedding's about the bride and groom and should just be about the "love" and significance of the union but seriously, come on!? It's technically my family now too and i'm SUPER bummed that I can't fly out for the weekend to celebrate with them (ALREADY taking 2 weeks off work the following week to go home to MI so there's no way i'd be able to ask for more time off...I work weekends at one of my jobs and the wedding's on a saturday....PLUS that's my finals week for grad school on top of everything!)
SERIOUSLY what's the rush? You have the REST of your life to be married! It's a majorly simple wedding, in a church, with a reception at a restaurant but STILL. I come from a family where weddings are BIG deals and not to be taken lightly (not that we have to have huge, elaborate ones or anything, but the thought of missing out on one of a loved one's biggest days EVER is really depressing and UNHEARD OF where i come from!). I feel shortchanged and wish they could of pulled back on the reins a bit but whatever. Not my life. At least husband gets to go, (only able to get the weekend off to fly to FL as it's such short notice). Sheesh! What's so hard about enjoying being single for another month or two, people,at least until all the holidays blow over?! Sex can wait! (yah, I forgot to mention they're both devout Christians if that adds to the story at all...DEF not like she's preggers or anything!). Done griping. 
nite!
Re: 3rd drink of the night b*tching :) (CRAZY bro in law!)
Other than dealing with any blowback for not being able to go to the wedding, this does not affect you in any way.
You sound extremely judgemental (but think he's TOTALLY rushing into being an adult and playing "house" ..... but the thought of missing out on one of a loved one's biggest days EVER is really depressing and UNHEARD OF where i come from)
This is not about you, its about them.
So be sad that you cannot go, but drop the comparisons. I am sure that in your Master's program you have met people who come from different backgrounds and/or have different value sets, so this should not be THAT much of a shock.
It's not enough "up close" time together. I don't "Get" these relationships where a couple meets on line, "chats" for a year or so and then meets....and they call it a relationship.To me, that's not a relationship. Technically, starting from the meeting in person, you have just met.
Willing to bet neither one of them conventionally dated before this big romance -- and it ws probably a Christian dating website or something similar, where they "met".
HE's met somebody? Great --- how about waiting a few years until you see what's what? 22 and 23 is still a tad young to get married -- and how is it you are buying a house with somebody where you've got no clue how he/she handles money on a day to day basis?
Holy run on sentence batman. You lost me here with no periods. When you do use periods - you use 3+?? Maybe you shouldn't type for advice after a few drinks if you expect some serious responses.
Eh, as long as someone prefaces it that they've been drinking and they know they're not going to make 100% sense... I think they get a pass. And it didn't sound like she was looking for serious responses or advice... she just wanted to "b1tch" about the situation.
OP- I get that it's frustrating. It's hard to watch someone you love make a BIG mistake, and there is nothing you can do to stop it. And it seems like in your case, you're sad that he's doing it but also sad that you can't be there for him. I totally get that. As long as you keep your b1tching here and aren't sharing it with your BIL or his family, I think it's okay to be frustrated with the situation. Unfortunately, it sounds like BIL will have to learn the hard way. He'll wake up after he's been married to this woman for a few weeks and realize they are total strangers. But that's his cross to bear, not yours.
I'm sorry that you can't attend the wedding. But it's going to happen whether or not it's a good idea. So I would just tell your BIL that you're supporting him from afar and offer to give any help you possibly can (i.e. wedding advice). Just wish him the best and hope that he gets lucky and that this stranger is who is actually meant to be with and that forcing him to finally grow up will be the catalyst to him becoming a true adult.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
it is too bad you can't go but yes-it's not about you-it's about them. send a gift and make plans to see them in a few months when you can take a few days to visit.
yah, definitely not so much about looking for advice and yes, that's why the "I've been drinking" disclaimer was up there....
Long story short, just kind of scary to watch everything happening so fast for them when it seems like neither one has had much real-life experience...She's still in her 2nd year of undergrad too and will now have to learn how to live with another person while paying a mortgage and going to school? Yikes. That's all. Buuttttt not my problem.......
I'm 22, my husband is 23. No it does not add to your "equation".
Says the person who is those ages. Sorry to say, but your claim that 22 and 23 isn't immature because YOU'RE 22/23 doesn't help your argument and will be ignored.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
your siggy pics get cuter and cuter! (I didnt even read the OP)