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I gotta beef
I am sure most of you know how seriously f'd up of a family I have.
Well, my dad calls me yesterday to tell me that I am an aunt again. I reply with Who? My dad says your sister had a baby boy the other day. They are in Traverse City. Tells me the name and I ask who is the dad and blah blah blah. See I haven't talked to my sister since August 08. That is when I called to tell her I was pg. Then poof. She dissapears. I tried tracking her down for months and finally just gave up. So backing up. I asked my dad how he knew this and he said my sister told him. He hadn't talked to her for a few years as well b/c our step mom told my sister in a nut shell that her oldest son had ADHD and she needed to get him tested. Needless to say, my sister doesnt like to be told what to do and if you don't help her out, she gets pissy with you.
So I get over the shock and move on.
My step mom posted on FB "WOW! Another grandbaby. 3#6oz" I reply with dislike. dislike. dislike. My step mom tells me it's not the baby's fault, it is what it is and we just have to go with the flow.
I responded back with "you should know me well enough by now that I don't go with anyones flow. The only thing that just goes with the flow are dead fish."
I realize she is excited for another grandbaby. But don't tell me how to feel about the situation.
That got really long. But I really needed to vent. I am sure most of it didnt make sense as I left a lot out.
Re: I gotta beef
Sorry...dont support this one. Social networking sites over the internet are not the place to air your family issues. Emphatically "disliking" posts about an infant kinda makes you look like an ass. If your irritated that your sis had a baby...just don't comment. If your disliking the baby's size...then say that! At that weight the baby may have some serious health issues. Either be sympathetic to the situation or just don't comment.
And you're comment about not going with the flow...Really? Sooo..what do you plan to do to change the fact that your sister had a very small, probably premature baby? No offense...but your aunts gotta point and your repsonse makes you appear very childish.
I second this!
I hear you, angi...I have a messed up family too. We could probably have a good time having a few drinks sharing "sister-stories"!
Maybe that's more where I'm coming from...having dealt with such a crazy, manipulative, lying, angry person as my sister...I know how much comments like that between the family members just breeds more animosity. And all that does is keep that emotion right at the fore-front for you.
Your sisters lifestyle choices dont have to affect you...nor do you have the right to dictate how she should/should not live her life. Not up to you what she should have done. Your step-mom has the right to be excited for a new baby. You being angry at your sister may be very valid...but its not fair of you to put your step-mom in the middle of it.