FIL's 90th Birthday Party

Karen2905

FIL is turning 90 in January, and DH and I want to throw a surprise party for him.  One of the issues we're having is trying to find a place to host the party.  FIL/MIL's house is small, and any more than 10 people would be cramped.  DH's cousin has a MASSIVE house, and graciously offered it for the party.... but there's just one problem.  They keep the house freezing cold. 

We were just there for a 1st birthday, and there were about 40 people in attendance.  The house was like an ice box.  Poor dad had two coats and hat on... (overkill for a normal person, but he's 90 and has circulatory problems).  It's a huge house, with cathedral ceilings, and must be very costly to try and heat.  MIL and FIL warned me ahead of time that this is how it would be... apparently this is a trend with her.

So we're torn.  Would it be wrong of me to accept her offer to use the house, and try to find a tactful way of asking her to crank the heat that day?  Maybe throw a little money her way to help cover the cost and for using her space?  Or should I just try to find a different space all together?

munkii

I would just try to find another place that lets you control the temp.  That way, everyone's comfortable, and you don't have to worry about stepping on anyone's toes.  If she asks why you're not having it at her house, be honest--maybe she'll offer to make it more comfortable without asking you to contribute.

Milliechel67

How many people are coming to this party?  If it's bigger, the body heat will help.  Or, if you can afford to pitch in a bit for the energy, maybe you could ask them if they'd be willing to turn up the heat for the sake of FIL if you help with the cost (they may just be used to it being cold and not realize how bad it is for him and may be willing to cover the cost once it's brought to their attention).

Karen2905

Milliechel67:

How many people are coming to this party? 

There would be less than the 1st birthday party.  Probably 20-30. 

I am searching for other places, just to get some pricing, but the cousin's house is probably the most practical (temperature aside).  It's the most centrally located and cheapest (even with $50 for heat).

We'll see what happens.  

kelliejo83

I was just in the market for a party room for my sister's bridal shower.  I ended up finding a room that holds up to 40 for $75 (for 5 hours).  Obviously, I don't live in your area, but you might be surprised at what you can find if you do end up renting a space.  It might be worth it.