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am I weird or it this just innocent mistake?
So this girl that used to be my client when I worked on another job, is visiting NYC from LA at the end of this month. She contacts me and asks if I want to go to dinner with her. I never met her in person, and think it's a good idea. I ask her if she has a special place she wants to go to and she sends me a link... the place is a higher end sushi restaurant.
I don't eat sushi, but I don't blame her for recommending, because she did not know that. But, the lowest price you can pay there is $80 for like 9 rolls, and the pre-set meal is over $100. That means, the total cost will be way more than $100....
Isn't it some sort of a faux pas to assume someone's budgetary capabilities like that??? I mean, I did pay once $55 for a heavenly, though tiny, piece of steak in Las Vegas, but that was meat and it was Vegas... I also had the flight paid for me, so I felt like it was ok...
Am I weird???
Re: am I weird or it this just innocent mistake?
That is expensive sushi!!!
I think some people just don't realise that other people don't have or don't want to spend money on things like that. So I'm going with innocent mistake. Perhaps suggest somewhere else, maybe tell a white lie and say that you have heard bad reviews from friends about it not being value for money.
Often DH and I go to dinner with his friends who all earn about 3 times as much as we do. They order three courses and drink load of cocktails and at the end expect us to split the bill equal ways. DH and I are counting our pennies, so only order main courses and spilt a dessert, plus I don't drink, and it is awkward to say "hey, I don't want to pay for your food!!'.
Maybe those prices are normal out in LA? I would definitely say something. I would send her links to other sushi places. I know places around here have sushi but also have hibachi as well. DH and I usually go there b/c I don't each sushi but can get hibachi. I would just tell her that you want to give her "options"
If nothing else, tell her you tried to call and make reservations, but they were all booked up.
I would say it is a Faux-paus. I went to Katsuya in L.A. for my honeymoon and the sushi was not expensive, but the drinks really were. Not sure it is high end cuisine but it it definitely a trendy place right now.
I usually check with friends when making dinner plans to agree on what kind of place to go to/money we want to spend.
Could she be inviting you-paying?
Not weird. But I'm sorry, suggesting a place where the meal ticket will be over $100/person is bullsh*t and it makes me wonder whether this girl knows basic social etiquette. You never ever ever assume that someone can pay that amount of money.
If it was me, I'd just suggest another place instead. If she persists, then I'd let her know that you don't really care for sushi/Japanese cuisine.
Do the creep.
So, I told her that I was not a fan of sushi, and that the place was also a little bit out of my price range. I did not care if she would think I was cheap or poor, because, after all, I never met her in person. She came back and said that she recommended it because she wanted to see how it was in NYC, and did not even notice that the prices were much higher than what she wanted to pay as well. So, it was a mistake...
I recommended a nice French place and I know she will love it... and, if our combined bill gets to $100 means we had A LOT of fun
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