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Oh families!
I am blessed to have an amazing family and DH is blessed to have one as well. Although I tend to like mine more than his, I am perfectly able to go through holidays and family events with a smile on my face now.
The thing I'm most looking forward to is no more holiday drama. At some point it has to just become old habit and nobody bats an eye... right? We have been alternating Thanksgivings since the 2nd year of dating. we tried to do 2 thanksgivings in one day exactly once. oof. Sore tummy and we felt rushed. The years we celebrate Thanksgiving with my fam, we spend New Years with DH's (their family tradition). Thanksgiving with his fam = DH and I go to my folks' cabin for New Years. Christmas Eve is with DH's fam and Christmas day is with mine. Seems easy enough?
This year, DH's grandma pouted because we're going to be celebrating with my fam and one of DH's aunts and fam are celebrating with her husband's fam. They decided to plan Thanksgiving on Saturday. We're going to the cabin for Thanksgiving with my fam and are staying the full weekend so I replied letting them know it is our year to celebrate with my family and that we wont' be back in town until Sunday but we'd see them on Christmas Eve (holiday invites get emailed to me because DH is really not good about details like that and he's fine with it). DRAMA! Oh my.
We were getting guilt tripped from all sides about how this was planned so we could join them, blah blah blah. B.S.! It is our year to spend with MY family. We started alternating years so that we wouldn't have to do two thanksgivings. Even if we were going to be in town, I'd say no just on principle. When we celebrate with them, we're fully there celebrating with them and them alone. I am not thinking about what my family is doing or how much better their food is (which is true but beside the point). If my family pulled this, I'd say the same thing to them. Sorry, but it is our year to celebrate with DH's family and we'll see you at Christmas.
I would love for them to rewind their lives to when they were newlyweds and were trying to figure out how to respect the traditions of both of their families while still making room to begin traditions of their own as a new family. It kills me to know that this is causing so much drama but neither DH or I are bending. I can't wait for the day when this is just old hat to them and we can celebrate the holidays with much less stress.
Bring on the holidays! I'm ready! 
Re: Oh families!
MY BLOG!
I don't envy your position... actually, I do! my family is 3000 miles away, so we are going for Christmas, but we had always alternated before the big move. It will be interesting to see what happens next year, when it's DH's family's turn, but Christmas is the only good opportunity to take off enough time to make the trip back east. Lord help me.
Stick to your guns. As long as you DH are on the same page, you're all good.
On the plus side, it's nice to know you're so dearly loved!