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Please help::update::
Update: we did decide to go with a PI. I will be going over at noon with all my information and let him deal with it. Thanks for your input and opinions.
Any tips on how to track someone from your past when you have no clue where they would be anymore? My son would like to contact his birth father (who gave up parental rights when he was born) because of my grandson on the way. He does NOT want a relationship with the guy! He ONLY wants to find out a medical background history for that side of the family. All I know is 19 years ago he moved to Flint, MI to work at Frito Lay and his parents live in Gwinn, MI. The same sounds familiar, but they must have moved as it's not the address they used to be at. The only reason I know that is that BF used their address in our court papers for termination of rights. I may end up even using a PI. But I have NO problem calling and first out explaining we dont' want anything other than a family medical history. So what would you do??
To add in, I have looked on facebook, but he has a VERY common name so let's say about 500 matches came up.
Re: Please help::update::
A lot of states have adoption registries where the parent who gave up rights or the child that was adopted can leave their information in case the other wants to get in touch. I would start with the state that the surrend happened in family court.
But given your situation, I think a professional 3rd party making the request for medical information is money well spent. This guy may have a range of emotions or expectations that you or your son will not want to deal with. He may never give you the medical information without getting something in return. I think you need to start as how you want to end. Don't contact him, if you don't want to be in contact with him. Use a PI.
Agreed, a third party is probably best especially if you don't want to open the door for any emotional ties that could have been repressed... a third party would definitely make the situation less personal and more professional since there is a specific reason for finding the birth father.