A small question?

rezelle

DH recently admitted that, if he were being completely selfish, he enjoyed a good bj more than having sex.

I'm just wondering if other men are like that, too. I'm not worried, of course, I'm sort of flattered that he likes them so much. Just curious. :-)

Lovestojam

I'm not sure I would say that they (men) would always prefer a BJ to sex, I think that depends on how much the individual guy gets off on the intimacy. Now, would a guy rather sit back and get head with very little to no work involved, yes. But, I think it would get old after a while. My DH loves head, absolutely loves it. I can also tell a difference in how he climaxes when hes getting head vs when we're having sex. And as I'm pregnant and sometimes would prefer to give him head through the course of a week when I'm not feeling like having sex, I know by about round 4 hes ready for sex. Its like anything else, you don't want the same flavor all the time. Now, deprive DH of both for about a week and ask him his choice, and it would probably be a BJ. It doesn't offend me after all as BJ's for most men, in many relationships, are considered a treat. I can't tell you how many of his friends make the comment that their wives either never give head, or maybe only once in a great blue moon. His best friend kind of let it slip at a christmas party last year that he hadn't received a BJ since before their daughter was born, and that was 6 years ago. And whereas I thought his wife would be mordified, I believe her response was somthing like "damn right its been 6 years, and it will probably be another six years." I certainly know mine likes to brag to his boys that he gets them almost any time he wants. And I'm more than happy to oblige. He always goes above and beyond to satisfy my needs, and it helps that I like giving. I feel bad for the guys out there who's signifigant others are adament against them, or believe they some how degrade woman kind. I can certainly see how an individual can degrade someone through their reasoning behind why they want a BJ, but I think in most cases, as it applies to good guys, its just a matter of the fact they enjoy them. Just my two cents.

mlee116

My H says he actually enjoys sex better, but I could see why guys would prefer getting a BJ more.  I mean, he basically just sits back while someone else does the work without having to worry about getting them off, so what's not to love about it?

stemms8810

I think in general most men enjoy a good BJ.  My BF hasn't told me if he prefers one over the other but I would venture to say your DH is not alone

jobiann

I think my H just likes the change up of things more then specifically one method.  But he's never complained about getting a BJ over just sex.

Mrs.Rad888

I'd think that everyone has their moments where they just want to sit back and be taken care of, and not have to expend much energy. Not every time, but every now and then.

Lil'BlackDress

I think H would say the same thing. I can see why, He doesn't have to do anything, the attention is all on him and instead of just going in and out of something he gets a ton of different little pressures in different places. And he doesn't have to worry about getting me off at that moment, it's totally pressure free.

oldbugle

Sadly I've never met many women who either wanted to do it or knew how!   If it comes down to it being done badly and grudgingly then, personally, I prefer that we forget the idea......

 

....the curious thing about oral sex for us men is that it's not so much about WHAT she does as about HOW she does it that causes the 'joy'....or not!

 

Strange how ALL women like to done to them.... and just the right way too!

Lane05

My DH and I had this conversation recently as I wondered why he never let me finish when I'm giving a BJ.  He said he absolutely loves it as foreplay but would prefer to finish during sex.  I think it really just depends on your man and what he likes. 

Roundrockgal79

My DH is just the opposite. It is very rare that he wants oral. He says it's definitely not my technique and that it's just not something that he's into or ever has been.

LoveBug10-09

mlee116:

My H says he actually enjoys sex better, but I could see why guys would prefer getting a BJ more.  I mean, he basically just sits back while someone else does the work without having to worry about getting them off, so what's not to love about it?

This.

Amieka

I think at this point, my bf may prefer bjs slightly only because for a looong time, I wasnt doing them lol I absolutely hated it, sometimes I could tolerate it, if I was super-duper in the mood but even then, in my head I was waiting for it to be over! Then all of a sudden, after being so dead inside sexually while I was pregnant, it was like a switch went off---soon as I had my son and felt better physically, all my old sexual feelings came back. We couldnt have sex until the doc okay'd it so I was doing them for him and oddly, actually WANTED to do them. Sometimes, I slip back into the "do i have to do this tonight?" feeling but thats mostly when I'm tired or just stressed out. I do find, its easier for me to do them still, if im already aroused and in the spirit lol But because of this sudden change, he's asking for it more often now that he knows they're available! haha I love him