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SIL slutty bestfriend
I was wondering if anyone has some good advice on how to deal with my SIL's slutty best friend. Background info goes something like this:
Husband and I have been married for 3 years and we have a very good relationship with his entire family. His sister is only a year older than I am and we relate/get along very well. She has a friend that has been one of her closest friends since childhood and although she always gave me a weird vibe, I never thought much of her. She comes to a lot of family events and is usually just akward and quiet. Recently I found out from my SIL that she has quite a different persona under her seemingly akward exterior. She has never really had a real relationship (she's rather strange looking with a very strange personality) but apparently she enjoys having sexual relations with engaged/married men. My SIL told me a few years ago she even had sex with her ex-bf after only a few months of them ending their relationship. She said she got over it pretty quickly (she's very laid back) and their friendship was okay after that. However, this friend continues to go after married or engaged guys, some that are even in their friends circle and my SIL and other friends have tried to talk to her about it and how wrong it is, my SIL even called her a whore and told her to stop acting like this. Well the last thing that happened was just recently when my SIL told me that this friend had sex with the fiancee of my old best friend from highschool (I still occasionally talk to my friend but we're not as close as we used to be). Regardless, I was extremely enraged, not only because of how slutty and disgusting this friend is, but because I've known my friend for over 10 years and it really upset me to find this out.
To get to the point of my ranting, my SIL, DH and I all talked and agreed that this friend is just a terrible person. However my SIL said she can't just stop being friends with her after all this time, which is fine, it's her business and I didn't try to tell her otherwise. However, we are all planning a family trip this December and I know this friend has come in the past to our trips and events and I DO NOT under any circumstance want her there. Do I tell my SIL and risk her being upset/offended with me? Do I have my DH, who also feels the same way as I do, talk to his sister? Am I overreacting about this situation?
Re: SIL slutty bestfriend
DUP
Is this post for real?
So what if she's slutty or goes after married/engaged guys why did your friends fiance have sex with her, he sounds like the douche in that situation. Why wouldn't you have her hang out with the family because of that? If she starts flirting with your H then sure call her out, kick her out, whatever but I don't see the point of "disowning her" because of her past behaviour that had nothing to do with you.