May 2010 Weddings
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I love my HH!!!
Yesterday was a rare day that HH got off work early. When I got home he had cleaned the whole house for me even though I had told him I would do it =] He's been working alot lately so I feel guilty with him cleaning the house, especially when I don't work nearly as long or hard as him. I do love it when he surprises me with little things like this though!
Two souls but a single thought; Two hearts that beat as one
Re: I love my HH!!!
Awww! That is sweet!
The most sacrificial thing mine has done lately was driving me down to Pittsburgh and sitting next to me for an hour-and-a-half French horn recital. Haha. He gets major points for not getting frustrated when the directions I'd printed out proved to be bad and we wound up down on the Triangle. The college campus where we needed to be was four neighborhoods to the east (of course, I'd been the one who said "We don't need to take the Garmin! The directions are really simple!").
aww how sweet.
considering my HH and I haven't spoken since yesterday, ive got nothing nice to say, HA
send him to my house.... I don't know what it's like to NOT clean mine!
Chris.... what happened??
we had a HUGE argument over money and bill paying yesterday... which included him calling me a bad name, so neither one of us is speaking to each other, he's been at most of the time anyway so we haven't even been able to try and fix it.
That's what most of our arguments are over too. Last night Jason said he was buying another new video game after buying Black Ops last week, a kinnect the week before, and a $800 camera before that.I was PlSSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you guys are able to fix things soon!!!
I hate money fights, I hope you get everything worked out soon!
Thanks Guys- right now i just dont even have the energy to discuss it with him. For weeks I've been trying to sit down and go over everything with him. Especially since I'm getting a new job with more money I wanted to see where we stood and such.
I sent him a little sheet so he could write down his bills so I could see how we can both contribute. He has ignored it and yesterday was the last straw when I saw a bill that didnt get paid in time.
Instead of him saying I know you want me to pay this bill but I dont have the money- he lets it sit on his desk and when i ask about it, he tells me its under control, when clearly its not.
Yesterday morning he kept asking me what was wrong because i was in a bad mood, so i finally just freaked out and he told me he didnt have time/need to hear this in the morning (but yet he comes home from work every night and plays Car town for hours on FB). So that led to yelling which lead to name calling and then hes like what do you want to do (yelling) and I said i'll figure it out as usual because you dont have the time.
So yea we didnt talk all day, he came home late from work, like 1130. He i guess assumed i was sleeping, i wasn't yet. But didnt exchange a word. He left early this morning for work and said nothing. Then I came into our office to his debit card with its password and his banking info. Whatever!
We'll talk and be fine eventually but I'm really starting to resent him and the fact that I take care of all the bills, cleaning, cooking, etc.
p.s. sorry its so long.
LOL thats funny.
I wouldn't be surprised that he doesnt even remember calling me the "C" word...............
Stu- yea this is only the second time he's used something as bad as that. We usually fight dirty, but that was harsher than normal. B*tch/A- hole is completely normal, hahaha.
Hayley- My bank has the online paying and all that jazz and I love it. He utilizes it for some of his own bills. Our problem is we have kept separate finances to try and avoid this because he doesn't balance a checkbook and trust that the banks balance is ALWAYS right. Meanwhile I set up payments to go out so I know I trust what I write in my checkbook. So we thought it would help. THe problem is I can't pay all the house bills plus my own on my salary so I would say Jay, here pay this bill by such and such please, ok hun. Then he forgets about it. I say please move XX into the account to pay the mortgage, then I have to hunt him down for it. There are so many bills to keep track of. The only thing we agreed upon yesterday was giving him a bottom line number that he has to give to me each month.
I agree- I can't believe he would say that to you! I would have flipped my shlt. I really hope things get resolved and he apologizes for everything that he's done. My J isn't the apology type, so I hope yours is!
Yeah Brandon would always give me a set amount to pay for half of our bills and I would just make sure everything got paid.
He busted out the C WORD?? He really doesn't look like he'd say that haha.
it depends, sometimes he apologizes, sometimes not. I was pretty shocked when I heard it too, because he doesn't normally go that far.
We have big fights and then can be normal a few hours later too, this def wont be one of them.
Yeah same here I guess.... I mean if he doesn't apologize, I'm definitely not going to. We usually hug it out haha
hahahaha us too, its usually i dont want to fight anymore, hold me, LOL
Ben and I have combined accounts and for the most part he takes care of all the finances. I keep track of the checkbook to make sure we don't over draw or anything, but he takes care of paying the bills. We also know eachothers pin numbers, passwords, etc.
We never call eachother names, but we do yell sometimes. Usually we'll both just stew for a while then one of us apologizes and we go back to normal. Sometimes no one apologizes if its a stupid argument.
Hahahahaha that's adorable
Awww, I hope you guys get things resolved soon!
Matt and I combined all of our accounts right after the wedding. Some of our bills are in my name and some are in his, but I am in charge of paying all of them. We had decided that before we even got engaged!
His credit is in the tank, and he blames all of his student loans. I blame his lack of respect for due dates. He figured that as long as the company got the money... or most of it... you know, sooner or later, that everything was fine.
This is also the boy who ran up $100 in just out-of-network texting charges in a single month before we combined onto a family share plan over a year ago. I am single-handedly trying to resurrect his crappy FICO score by removing all financial responsibility from his hands. LOL
This is us, minus the yelling! Haha. We don't fight that often, but when we do, it's primarily stewing followed by "Here are my grievances," "Here are my counter-grievances," and "Here is a proposed solution."
My problem is that I can stew for days over something stupid if I'm not careful. I have to watch that tendency.
Katy - That's so sweet. What a great surprise.
Chris - I can't believe he used the C word. I agree he doesn't look like the type to say that. I would have been furious. I hope you guys can talk things through soon.