SILs really wanted DH to talk about a waitress

fl4lovers

So, my SILs have always hated me for "stealing" their brother. DH is not close with them due to the fact that they are a MESS. Still, things like this annoy me, as they happen frequently. We were at a restaurant and SILs start talking about a waitress at ANOTHER restaurant who they say has naked pics online. DH and I stayed out of the conversation, but SILs kept promting him to say something about her. DH said he didn't even know who the waitress was,  and I said I had never seen her either. SIL said "oh come on, you know, the one with huge fake t*ts!" DH ignored her. Other SIL looks across the table a give a "look" to her sister like , "He won't say anything bc she's (me) here."

Ugh, it's like stop hating me and ohhh..sorry my DH isn't going to join a conversation about naked pictures of some waitress. This was also at ay MIL birthday dinner. They know how to keep it classy.

heartlyric

Call them lesbos for checking out these alleged pictures.

I had the same problem only with birthday cards of naked men my boyfriend's family would get, I told his brother to get out of the closet, and they haven't sent a card like that in two years.

doglove

Why are you and your husband spending time with these people if they have no respect or regard for you and your relatoinship with him?

hawaii123

So you're making up scenerios that make it appear like they hate you because of a perceived "look?"   You couldn't have thought of something else to talk about rather than just sit there and stew about something that may or may not be true? 

EastCoastBride

doglove:

Why are you and your husband spending time with these people if they have no respect or regard for you and your relatoinship with him?

This.  I get it's your MIL's b-day, but so what?  W/ that comment, your DH should have said something to the effect of "I find that comment offensive.  If you can't show us basic respect, we aren't going to spend time w/ you all. " then looked at his mom and said "I'm sorry mom, but I'm not going to put up w/ their comments like this" and the two of you should have gotten up and left.

They do this because they can.  You're out to eat, it's for MIL, so therefore they think you've got no choice. Show them that you all DO have a choice.

Ready4theParty

Have your SILs ever said they don't like you?  I think you are fueling whatever they are trying to start, if they are actually trying to start something.  Next time they try to make your DH look at naked pictures, look at the pictures, you should make a comment about how cute the girl is.

 

EastCoastBride

hawaii123:

So you're making up scenerios that make it appear like they hate you because of a perceived "look?"   You couldn't have thought of something else to talk about rather than just sit there and stew about something that may or may not be true? 

This is actually a good point.  WHy did you and DH turn to your MIL and whoever else was there and start up another conversation?  Why were you all just sitting there quietly while this was going on?

Pippi Langstrump

heartlyric:

Call them lesbos for checking out these alleged pictures.

That's an option. Or, you could act like a mature, non-homophobic adult and just tell them their comments aren't respectful or appropriate and need to stop.

Have you heard "You teach people how to treat you"? It's so true, and so far you and your DH have been teaching your SILs they can get away with being rude and obnoxious.

alithebride

or your DH could grow a pair and tell his sister 'stop asking me about it-i told you I dont know her and you're being annoying' and then start another convo.

Mrs D in May

There has to be another reason they don't like you besides that you married their brother.  And ideas?

I don't understand why you are spending time with them if they do not like you.

EastCoastBride

Thinking about this more, I think your DH should have said "Why are you obsessing over this?  There has to be something of more interest going on that you can talk about...".

saraelizabeth28

hawaii123:

So you're making up scenerios that make it appear like they hate you because of a perceived "look?"   You couldn't have thought of something else to talk about rather than just sit there and stew about something that may or may not be true? 

This is kinda what I am getting.  To me it doesn't sound like they hate you; it just sounds like they are immature gossipy girls.

MyValentine2004

Is this issue really important enough to you that you'd obsess about it at dinner and continue dwelling on it long enough after to post a vent?  They're trying to get your goat and you let them. 

fl4lovers

To further explain, DH and I were on the end of a long table of about 12 people-we should have started talking over SILs! I agree DH should have said something.

We have talked before about "getting up and leaving" when they are rude.

 

fl4lovers

As far as a "percieved" look-TRUST me on this, it was a LOOK. Also, I found it even more annoying that SILs DH was not questioned about the waitress (he sitting next to SIL).

casmgn

fl4lovers:

As far as a "percieved" look-TRUST me on this, it was a LOOK. Also, I found it even more annoying that SILs DH was not questioned about the waitress (he sitting next to SIL).

They probably enjoy getting a rise out of you.

casmgn

fl4lovers:

Other SIL looks across the table a give a "look" to her sister like , "He won't say anything bc she's (me) here."

This also stood out to me. If you were not there, would your DH have joined in the conversation?

fl4lovers

casmgn:

fl4lovers:

Other SIL looks across the table a give a "look" to her sister like , "He won't say anything bc she's (me) here."

This also stood out to me. If you were not there, would your DH have joined in the conversation?

I a word, no. And DH never hangs out with SILs so how would they think he woudl talk about a waitress/her nude pics if I wasn't there? This is just an example of mannnnny things they constantly say/do.

Mrs.Rad888

fl4lovers:

As far as a "percieved" look-TRUST me on this, it was a LOOK. Also, I found it even more annoying that SILs DH was not questioned about the waitress (he sitting next to SIL).

Am I the only one getting a "Mom, make her stop LOOKING at meeee!!!!!" from-the-backseat kind of vibe?

"I'm not touching you....I'm not touching you....I'm not touching you.....!"

Mrs.Masie

heartlyric:

Call them lesbos for checking out these alleged pictures.

I had the same problem only with birthday cards of naked men my boyfriend's family would get, I told his brother to get out of the closet, and they haven't sent a card like that in two years.

Wait, is that supposed to be some sort of insult or something?

You are fvcking dumb.

loritajean

saraelizabeth28:

hawaii123:

So you're making up scenerios that make it appear like they hate you because of a perceived "look?"   You couldn't have thought of something else to talk about rather than just sit there and stew about something that may or may not be true? 

This is kinda what I am getting.  To me it doesn't sound like they hate you; it just sounds like they are immature gossipy girls.

That was my thought as well. Sounds like they're just being gossipy. If a SIL of mine did this, I would thing they were just trying to talk bad about the waitress, not trying to piss me off.

Seems like you're reading way too much into this.