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Career Funk...
anyone go through this right after the wedding?
I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up, well I know but I don't think the timing is great.
Anyway, I feel like I want to work less and that doesn't make a ton of sense as I've always been pretty independent etc.
Perhaps just post wedding funk?
Re: Career Funk...
Are you and Mr. Feef talking about making babies? (I promise I won't tell!!!)
That's what made me decide that my career wasn't as important. Best decision I've ever made. Before we got PG, it was just nice to have time to spend with him, being "wifey" like cleaning, making dinner, etc - and not overworked. Now that we are having a little A, it'll be even better.
You know I worked for 12 years like a crazy woman. I feel like I proved to myself that I coudl do that. Now I want something else out of life.
It's just my perspective, but I hope it helps!
No worries, it's well known that we'll be making babies eventually, we're shooting for a year from now! My sister is telling people she isn't my biographer...:) Oh Meg.
And I think I know exactly what you mean, about just having different priorities
The job I have now isn't exactly a challenge and it's not exactly rewarding, so it's a much different change of pace for me.
I just can't figure what's "off" and I'm wondering if that's it.
I thought after my wedding was over and I became married work would be much easier for me. I got married in the middle of the school year and was distracted for most of the first half. Well, I thought wrong and I still was in some sort of funk where I didn't want to do very much at all.
I don't really know what I'm trying to say other than I was also in a funk after the wedding, so I know what it feels like. I'm sorry you're dealing with it - there is no fun in being stuck doing something you're unhappy with every day.
There is definitely a post-wedding funk - it's been awhile but I seem to remember something like this.
If you're gearing up to eventually make plans for a family, it definitely makes sense that you would want to look for a path where you' be working less so you'll have more time at home with that family when the time comes. I know I did the same thing.......
That post wedding funk sucks! It took me about a month to snap out of it and I don't know if I am fully out of it because I am still more content to be hiding in my shell than to be social.
I used to make a list of things I thought I would enjoy doing but then always found something I didn't like about those things... give yourself a little more time and if nothing changes then see if you can find a different path. I know several things you'd be great at!
Things definately change in your career as your life changes. It is definately harder to work when babies come into the picture. Some days I really love coming to work and doing what I do, and other days I feel so horrible driving out of Briannas daycare as she waves to me in the window! I know she is well cared for and happy there and believe me that makes my day so much easier... but there are days where I just want to be a mom and not a paramedic. My job hits home alot and it makes me a better mom and devote more time to my husband, daughter and family.
Maybe its time to re-evaluate where you are in your career path and set some higher goals for yourself? Are you where you want to be, or thought you would be? Where do you want to be career wise in 3-5 years and what can you do to get there? Maybe find a new hobby like scrapbooking, yoga classes etc. = )
HTH!!!