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Having a miscarriage
or at least I am told it`s imminent. There is a tiny amount of hope but not much of one. They say I can hope still because the bleeding is light and I don`t have cramping. I should no longer be pregnant by the end of the week. I have more blood work on friday and another ultrasound on Monday. I am frusterated, I am sad and right now, angry.
The nurse I had was great. She was really comforting, she listened to the doctor and translated what he was saying for me after he left, she came in to hug me when DH had to take DD away and she walked by and saw me crying. She even charged my iphone so I could play angry birds to distract me while I was waiting. Everyone else I dealt with today sucked.
The ultrasound tech was down right mean and rude and when the doctor told me I was starting to miscarry he was smiling and upbeat. Why? Because when you miscarry this early it's a good thing because it means that the baby had some horrible chromasomal abnormallity and shouldn't have lived. Then he said, "but you never know, the bleeding could be because implantation happened close to your cervix. If that's the case than you could have a normal healthy pregnancy but I highly doubt it"
I asked him what my HCG levels looked like (I was going for the blood work today to confirm my pregnancy after three positive pee sticks) and he said, "actually that's a great question, I didn't even think to run that test. How about we take more blood and I will let you know tomorrow. That way we have a baseline to compare it to on Friday in case you aren't losing the baby"
Awesome. My day has sucked. My doctor thought me miscarrying (sp?) was a good thing, the ultrasound tech was rude and I am losing my baby but only maybe. This sucks.
Re: Having a miscarriage
I would have to agree with the PP. When I was 11 weeks pregnant with DD I had full on heavy bleeding and thought that I was M/Cing ( especially due to my history of M/C's). The bleeding finally stopped at 13 weeks and I went on to have a perfectly healthy baby. The Drs at Emergency weren't very compassionate with me either when I went in.
Try to think positively, there is still avery good chance that it could be implantation bleeding.
{{HUGS}}
My thoughts too. Bleeding does not necessarily = miscarriage. Was there something on the u/s that indicated things aren't going well?
I'm sorry you're going through this.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, but I have to agree with the above posters too. Did they say why exactly they think you are miscarrying? My mom had heavy bleeding early in her pregnancy with my youngest sister, and she's now six years old and healthy as a horse. I hesitated to say anything because I don't want to provide false hope in the case they are correct, but light bleeding alone does not automatically = miscarriage.
I started bleeding bright red the night before last. I had pain in my left shoulder and I passed a clot. I went in because they were afraid I was having an ectopic pregnancy. So they did the most extensive ultrasound of my life and drew some blood. They said that what they saw in my uterus was really close to my cervix which indicates that it's on it's way out. The bleeding isn't heavy but it isn't light anymore either, I keep passing clots and the bleeding is not letting up.
This is why they told me not to give up hope yet, I have no cramping. Like at all. I haven't soaked a pad. So they have me on bedrest. I am to stay like this until tomorrow when they do another blood draw and then I am back in bed until Monday when they do the next ultrasound.
Why to not get to hopeful, they said that if I am going to miscarry the clots are going to get bigger, which they are. I am to look for one with grey tissue. That will mean I have lost the baby.
Oh I'm so sorry. What an awful day. You'd think people who do u/s and pre-natal care for a living would have a smidge of compassion.
Hugs and good thoughts for you.
I am so sorry this is happening. And even more sorry that you don't seem to have very compassionate health care providers working with you.
Don't lose hope. Like the pp have said, sometimes things can turn out ok. Hugs.