Is this the right place to post? to hyphenate or not?

enigmaticdrscully

SomethingNewEveryDay:

zelda25:

I kept my own name; I've never heard a compelling reason to change it, so it's the easiest of all the options.

 

ditto 

Same here.

Re: wanting to have the same last name as kids, I had several friends growing up whose mothers had different last names than they did, and there was no mass confusion. However, I am amused by the number of people who assumed (without asking) that I would be taking my husband's name, despite the fact that I have a graduate degree and work in a field where it is more common to keep one's last name rather than change it.

imoan

I kept my name.  Any children we have will have my last name (a common male first name) as their middle name.

glittergal73

I found out my father was dying right before I got married, and I really wanted to keep my name to honor him (plus, I liked my name!  I had it for 31 years).  Then my inlaws were really offended and I love them very much so I decided to hyphenate and have everyone happy.  It's never bothered me, but the two names don't really sound nice together out loud because both names end in "er."  The only time it is ever an issue is with making sure I put in the hyphen on anything official.

HannahO28

I took my husband's name. I could get flamed for this, but I strongly feel that a couple should have the same LN. It is a part of becoming a family unit. I think both people taking hyphenated names is fine, or both taking either name, but I side-eye married couples that have different last names. Just my opinion...

suze423

I took DH's name, dropped my middle name, and used my maiden name as my middle name so it's Susan Maiden Married.  My mom did this as well.  I've never been that attached to my middle name so it wasn't a big deal to drop it.

jaybirdie

I went back and forth on what to do when I got married too.  After talking to a few women to hyphenated their name (and now wish they hadn't), I decided to not hyphenate and instead use my maiden name as my middle name.