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Wills
Do any of y'all have wills written up? I know it's not a pleasant thought but we're grown ups now! 
How did you do it? Just go to a lawyer?
We wanted to do one before Campbell was born but never got to it and now I'm really feeling the pressure to do it (life insurance open enrollment at work).
My mom thinks we need to just write something down and sign it and keep it in my jewlery box until we get the will done up with a lawyer so there's at least something saying she gets Campbell. I'm not sure that's 'admissable' but I'll do it until we get around to getting to the lawyer just in case.
Re: Wills
we are in the process of drawing ours up. We went a couple weeks ago to meet with our laywer (DH gets group legal as a benefit through his work, which allows us to do this at no cost). As of right now, we are just waiting for a draft to look over and give the okay for it to be finalized
It was relatively painless. I'd go in with an idea of who you want your executors to be and guardians of the kids. The lawyer will walk you through all the different options and the meanings of each. At least ours did.
Thanks Lissy! That's good to know.
The work will be getting DH to get on board with just getting it out of the way, he's such a procrastinator! I know my dad's got a lawyer he uses, maybe I'll just get the ball rolling with getting his info.
Believe it or not, but we don't! I can't write Thom's will b/c I'd be a beneficiary and that's viewed with suspicion. So, I just haven't forked over the money yet.
I think it's better to just get the ball rolling -- call and schedule an appointment, and drag YH to the office! The only problem w/ that is if he has a different opinion about Campbell's guardian or some other issue that's addressed in the will.
(says the attorney who doesn't have a will)
I asked DH to join the group legal at work, but he hasn't yet. I need to ask him.
We don't have one yet, but we will, esp before kids are in the picture and then we'll update afterward. I know it's weird, but I am sort of worried about who might get Sadie if we were to die. We've discussed who we want her to go to, so maybe we need to write it down and put it in our safe just in case.
Most everything else is laid out through beneficiaries we setup for our benefits, such as TSP, life insurance etc.
Wives Unscripted
Haha, bad attorney Rebecca!
Fortunately we do agree that we want my parents to be Campbell's guardian if something happens to both of us. It's just a no brainer but I'm glad we agree.
We updated all of our beneficiary information when we got married so fortunately that's up-to-date!
So embarrassing...
We met with a lawyer more than a year ago (she was doing her daughter, a friend of mine, a favor by talking to us). We had some back and forths on drafts, but the last tag was mine, and I haven't done anything with it. In more than a YEAR.
I need to get back to her on it, tail between my legs, but haven't found/made the time to go through it all again. And then write the "mea culpa" letter to go along with it.
OUrs is a bit more complicated. We'll set up trusts that allow for each of our sisters (I have one, DH has 2) getting some aspect of an inheritance even if the other passes first (i.e., if I die first, DH will get most of my money, but my sister will either get some then, or when DH dies... tbd).
Between life insurance, retirement accounts, investment accounts, and two properties, we have a complicated portfolio to parse through. So, even though we don't have kids, we have a challenging process ahead... though apparently not as challenging as just freaking doing it.
Oh waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaait a minute.
I should restate my post:
I have a will. And a power of attorney. ANd a medical proxy. All that stuff.
It's jsut that it's from before I met DH, and before I bought my house.
So, the problem is, at this point, I have a will that leaves NOTHING to my husband! He's my beneficiary on my accounts and life insurance, though.
Ah! That IS a problem! Well, hopefully your will doesn't leave things to someone you now hate! If you have joint accounts and you're both on each others' deeds, then you may not have a problem if something happens before you can change it. But why take the risk? The attorney will be happy to hear from you -- it's more change in her pocket if you come back! (she's not doing it for the good times!)