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Oh Pam, I am so so sorry to hear this. His actions and behavior are compltely unacceptable and uncalled for. I think he is probably acting out for some other reason than you (i.e. issues at home, with his wife, etc) and you gave him an outlet.
I am glad you informed his superiors about his actions and if they don't stop, you need to contact HR so there is a record of his behavior. I would start writing down everytime he does something mean to you so you have a log.
You shouldn't have to quit your job because your boss flipped a switch. That is HR's problem that they need to deal with and set him straight.
***HUGS*** Sorry you are having to deal with this.
Oh, Pam, that sucks! I like MrsGoontz's ideas. I hope your boss's boss is concerned about his unfair outbursts and is in your corner.
My initial reaction upon reading your post Pam, my thought was "He is definitely dealing with something at home, and probably left work that day without telling Pam because he was (a) pisssed off about something that had nothing to do with her or (b) his mind was on something else and it didn't even cross his mind to come check in with you before taking off". If he left work on Friday upset about something, chances are he spent the weekend dealing with it, or thinking about it (maybe he got into a fight with family on Thanksgiving??) and when you joked about it on Monday, it could have set him off. Even though it has nothing to do with you, he is probably seeing you as the person who is bringing his home life problems to work.
To me, it just sounds like he's going through something non-work related.
So my suggestion is (and I have done this before in the past, and it has always turned out well) is to go to him, one on one, and being VERY friendly and polite, and not in a joking manner, but one of true concern, and just say "Hey, is there anything that you want to talk about? I have always liked working with you and thought we had a great relationship, and I just want you to know that if there is something that is bothering you, I'm here to talk about it. If I'm doing something that is upsetting you, I'd love to know so that I can work on it and hopefully we can move past it"
Since you're approaching it maturely and as a friend, he'll probably be willing to either tell you that it has nothing to do with you and he's sorry, or he'll say "well THIS is bothering me" and then at least you can say "I will absolutely start/stop doing that" and have something to work on.
It sucks to go in to work and feel stressed because of a negative atmosphere...it's best just to face it head on.
As did I but I think I have an idea of what went down.
I'm sorry that you're having to deal with a negative atmosphere at work. It really does make it difficult to be there. I agree with J that approaching him about the situation might be the best action. I hope things get better Hun!