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pregnant and cant put up with mil please help advice needed
i am just in my second trimester and my mother in law and the rest of my husbands family are getting on my last nerve. i am attending a cosmetology school and my inlaws have been helping out by watching our two boys while im at school and i have recently found out that my mil has been talking trash on my family which i dont approve of especially in front of my kids and because i could not get ahold of her over the phone to confront her about it because she never gets off of facebook i sent her a private message on facebook telling her that i did not appreciate it (she had also contacted my mother and verbaly attacked her for no reason) and so i told her i could not believe that she did that and that it was not acceptable and it would not be tolerated and if she chose to continue to act like that she would no longer be allowed around my children and i would find elsewhere for my children and then i get everyone of her other children besides my husband messaging me on facebook calling me and my mother "phsycotic bitches" and more (a lot worse than their previous statement) and how she gave them her log in so they could read how i told her my children wouldnt be allowed around that and then get told that i am a horrible mother....but how am i a horrible mother when i dont want my children around filth like they were speaking?......i then told my dh about EVERYTHING and that our children were not allowed around them anymore and we would no longer be anywhere near them and he agreed.......am i a bad wife for this?(my husband told me that he would "no longer have anything else to do with them)and this decision was made by him.......and then about an hour after this my mil sends my mother and i both txts saying "SHE WILL B IN THE DELIVERY ROOM WHEN I HAVE THIS BABY AND THERE AIN'T *** WE CAN DO ABOUT IT" there in no way under any circumstances will she be in there especially not to r
Re: pregnant and cant put up with mil please help advice needed
Eff Facebook -- get yourself to a phone and tell her by voice that she is not to run roughshod over you or your family.
And if she doesn't like it, too dern bad.
BTW, paragraphs are your friend. Try it sometime.
Cut them off for good. Posthaste. They sound toxic and horrible.
Make a pregnancy ticker
Then hell to the naw with her --- find a way to tell her right to her face. And put nothing in writing; the wench will only show everybody what you said.
This all sounds so trashy.
Just stop responding and block her. Then, call your hospital and OB and let them know that only your DH (and your mom?) are allowed in the delivery room. They'll make sure that happens.
Don't tell MIL you did that, don't tell the rest of the family, just handle it on your own and she'll find out when the time comes (which she won't have a chance to, because you won't call her when you go into labor.) And find new childcare!
If they're really that toxic, the best thing you can do is to just cut off contact and let your little family move forward without having to worry about the inlaw drama.