DH is a grinch

prop_tart

He spent last year working for a company that does commercial holiday decorations in NYC and now hates the sight of Christmas decorations.  He doesn't want to help put lights up and doesn't want a tree.  I get that his job was awful and soul sucking, but it's Christmas dammit. 

He's out of town this weekend, so I'm putting up all the decor while he's gone so I don't have to deal with the bitching.  

He's not against the holiday itself, just against the sight of Christmas decorations.  I told him if he isn't over this by next year he's getting therapy. 

Anyone else have a grinchy DH/SO?

DZKathryn

Kind of. For my DH its the thought of spending all the money on gifts. We are on a pretty tight budget while I am finishing up school. My hubby doesn't mind the thought of giving people gifts, he is really good at picking things out. He gets really uncomfortable with spending money though. Even if we set a budget, he still gets nervous. We can't talk about shopping without him getting worked up about money, it totally takes the fun out of holiday shopping

Whoo

Mine is.  He was raised in a different culture and they never put up a christmas tree or barely exchanged presents which is the exact opposite of how I was raised.  In the beginning of our marriage it became apparent that we see the holiday differently.  I had to plead with him to help me put up lights etc.  He just didn't get it.  Now that we have 2 kids and over the years he has changed his tune.  He still groans a bit but he gets it and enjoys it.  He actually moved the elf on the shelf last night on his own without me doing it or asking him to.   I was shocked and thought about how far he's come from the grinch he used to be. 

SAHM711

My DH says he doesn't like Christmas (or most holidays), which is hard because I love it.  It started over 30 years ago when his parents got divorced, and they didn't have much of anything.  Plus he's had to spend many holidays alone, and for the past couple of years there has been a lot of family tension/drama in his family causing a big split between him and his siblings.  They're starting to get past all that (the wedding seems to have brought everyone back together), and I keep hoping that now that we're together some of my love for the holiday will rub off on him, but he's so resistant to it.  It makes it doubly hard that he lost his job six weeks before our wedding and still hasn't found another one so we're on a tight gift buying budget this year.  He likes to be able to be generous, and so do I, but I just don't want to go overboard.  He says once we have kids he'll be able to get back into it, but he's even put that on hold now because he's so down about not having a job.  At least he's agreed to help me decorate, go to one of the two Christmas concerts my family always attends, and celebrate with all the different family units.  I guess I should be grateful for what I have, but it makes me sad that he's so grumpy about it and that we have to put off our dream of having kids when I thought I might be pregnant by now.  I grew up with parents who taught us about the real meaning of Christmas and instilled in us a love of the magic of the season.  I just wish there were some way I could get him to see that also, but maybe I'm just trying to live in a Lifetime Christmas movie.

mrs.starbucks

DH is pretty grinchy...I don't think he really has a reason for it. It's just a kind of Christmas-laziness and unwillingness to spend $3.99 on a string of lights, lol. I really had to twist his arm last year to buy lights with me and help me put them up; and then he FORGOT to get me something, lol. Other men forget their wives birthdays. My DH forgot my Christmas present. He made up for it though

 This year it's been a little easier to get him to play along. He discovered somewhere in the process of decorating the house and such that nesting makes me happy and has pleasing results. So he's offering less resistance on the whole. 

saraelizabeth28

My H can be a bit of a grinch.... but that is usually only when he is in a mood.  I call him Ebenezer when he starts b*tchy about christmas.

cakozelka10

My DH refused to let me buy more lights... we have one strand of 300 in an L shape going from the front door to the garage. It looks pretty lonely to me but there is always next year! haha

carlandkamie

We just bought our first home and he won't let us get lights for the outside of the house! We have a tree and some indoor decor, but nothing outside! Rawr!

glamorousansley

Mine just doesn't want to help with any of the decorating. Needless to say the outside of our house is lonely for lights. I was able to put a lighted garland around the door, and our Christmas tree shows in the front window,but that's the best I could do alone.

mireille86

Mine was a huge Grinch when we first met - he put up a fight about whether or not we should even get a Christmas tree.  To be fair, his family really doesn't care much about holidays; they put up a "Christmas Lava Lamp" one year and then did nothing for about five years.  Yeah.

But I grew up in a religious family, my sisters and I always participated in the Christmas Eve mass, and Christmas was HUUUUUUGE deal for us.  He's starting to get a little better, he even plugged the tree in on his own the other day.  

I try not to be too demanding, but we live far away from our families now and can't be with them on Christmas, so he's the only person I have to share Christmas with.  So that's kind of a bummer.  Still, maybe he'll keep getting better, right?  

Sidenote, I am totally not above guilting him into coming to mass with me so I don't have to go to that one mass alone (especially since I go alone every other time).