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Can I shed a tear?
My parents got an offer on their house out east. They signed a lease on a rental in Missouri until they figure out where to buy/work PT as they will be "retired." Part of me is happy for them to relocate to be very close to my mom's family (she moved when she got married... so maybe my Dad owes her big time?), but part of me does not want my parents to move from my hometown and sell the house I grew up in. I'm keeping it together on the outside, but inside I'm a mess.
I'm almost thinking about flying home next weekend (Xmas airfare is over $500, but next weekend is $250- about at cheap as it gets). I'd leave DH here. My brother and his wife will be in town (they live about 8 hours from my rents), so I won't be alone. I already had a "farewell" visit back in May when I knew the house was going up on the market. But, I don't want to regret not doing one last visit. I would not be helping them pack, as they are having professional movers box everything and load the truck. The airfare really isn't in the budget this month, but it could be a Xmas present from DH. Also, we are leaving for vacation on NYE for a week, which we have been planning for 16 months, so I feel a little guilty flying 2 weeks before vacation.
Thoughts?
Re: Can I shed a tear?
I would be a mess too. My parents are still in the house they bought when I was 2 months old and I can't imagine what I'll be like when they move out. We also had a very tight knit hometown that I love going back too so I definitely think you're entitled to shed a tear!
If it were me I'd probably take the trip. $250 isn't too, too terrible. Is there something you can cut out of your budget after the New Year to make up for it? I'm normally always up for spending extra money for traveling though (a habit that DH hates) so I might be the wrong example to use. I think it sounds like a nice time to visit family though. At least now it sounds like after their move, you'll be able to drive to see them.
The downside to them moving is they WILL see me more often. UGH. I like being far away from them. I have no idea how often I will really see them (it's been about 1-2x year for the last 7 years), but I'm thinking it will be more like every 2-3 months since they won't have anything to do but visit me!
Now DH and I have to think about splitting holidays. This was not something we talked about before marriage. We knew we would always be in the midwest, even after eventual kids, but now we are going to have start taking turns (unless I say screw it all and stay home). Blech.
I could technically get the money to pay for the airfare- but I was trying not to spend much on me due to the vacation and trying to save for a downpayment on a newer car for DH (he's had to jump it 3 times in 4 days... the 14 year old car does not like the cold... might really be kickin' the curb funally).
I talked with SIL. They aren't getting in until late Sat, and staying at her sister's house.
I'm opting not to go now. It would be a waste of money to go and watch tv and eat at the local diner with the rents... SIL says the pics I got emailed to me is what the house looked like at Thanksgiving.