Random question re Thank you cards

chach916

Just wondering what everyone's thoughts are on thank you cards.  I've always sent them.  However, in the past couple of years or so, I've noticed when I give a gift, I don't always receive one back.  It doesn't really bother me, as long as I get some type of acknowledgement either in person or in email, so I know they got the gift.

Recently I met someone who told me she hates thank you cards.  That at her wedding shower she thanked everyone personally for the gift and made sure to call anyone who wasn't there, but she didn't send out any thank you notes.  It caused a fight between her and her MIL, but the girl said she thinks they are a waste of time and money and refused to send any out.

Thoughts?

NinjaPaants

For wedding gifts and bridal shower gifts I sent cards. I guess it is probably just because of the volume of gifts that it was easier to send cards. If someone was to send me a gift for my birthday or something I would just call them up and say thank-you if they didn't give it to me in person.  I guess for me it just depends but I do know that a thank you in some shape or form is always warrented.

We went to a wedding at the beginning of October and I never got a thank you card from them and I am a little peeved.

tmclawchick

     If it's a gift for birthday/Christmas, I wouldn't send one. But if it's a special occasion (i.e. baby/bridal shower/wedding/baptism, etc.), I'd expect a thank you card. Yeah, it can be a pain to write out each card, but if someone took the time to buy a gift and come to the event, they should get a card...

chach916

NinjaPaants:

For wedding gifts and bridal shower gifts I sent cards. I guess it is probably just because of the volume of gifts that it was easier to send cards. If someone was to send me a gift for my birthday or something I would just call them up and say thank-you if they didn't give it to me in person.  I guess for me it just depends but I do know that a thank you in some shape or form is always warrented.

We went to a wedding at the beginning of October and I never got a thank you card from them and I am a little peeved.

This past summer, I received a thank you note from a wedding shower I went to...back in July of 2007.  No joke.  Why bother sending after that long?  Emily Post gives you 3 months, 3 years is just ridiculous.

Stacie719

I have always sent out thank you cards for any major event (our wedding, my bridal and baby showers, DD's birthday parties, etc) If it's a smaller thing (ie someone sent me something for my bday) I sometimes just call or thank them in person, just depends on the situation.

If I give a gift and don't get a thank you either in the mail or in person, I remember and think twice about what I give that person next time.  

NinjaPaants

Stacie719:

I have always sent out thank you cards for any major event (our wedding, my bridal and baby showers, DD's birthday parties, etc) If it's a smaller thing (ie someone sent me something for my bday) I sometimes just call or thank them in person, just depends on the situation.

If I give a gift and don't get a thank you either in the mail or in person, I remember and think twice about what I give that person next time.  

I completely agree.

chucktgirl

I definitely use Thank You cards, particularly for formal events. But these days, for things like Christmas gifts to my friend's kids and similar things, I totally accept a special phone call or email to thank me, even if I would have sent a card. I didn't receive a thank you for a large (for me) amount of money I sent my godson for his high school graduation, so I called him out on it, and said I was concerned he never received it, since I never heard from him. Totally a Grandma move, but I did it anyway! It's up to parents to teach their kids the simple rules of being polite. And if their parent didn't teach them, then I will!