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First Married Christmas - Not spending it together...
We're trying to figure out our Christmas plans and DH just threw a curve ball at me that I'm not sure how I feel about yet.
We have about 9 days off and had planned up spliting them between our parents' houses. They're about 2 hours apart but both north so it makes sense. He's be saying that he wanted to be a his parents for Christmas morning since we were at mine last year (then drove to his for dinner that night) but we hadn't set anything in stone.
Our dog isn't allowed at his parents because she doesn't get along with their dog so I told him if we go there, he has to figure out the kennel arrangements, etc. Last night, he just told me that they're full for Christmas day so he made a reservation for the day after Christmas through New Years. Then he said he still wanted to go there for Christmas day and that I could just go to my parents with the dog. It just seems really weird to me to spend our first married Christmas not together. Granted we do spend probably too much time together down here and it'll be nice to see family. What do you guys think? Worst case I'd see him and his family the day after Christmas....
Re: First Married Christmas - Not spending it together...
Honestly, if I were in your position, I'd go ahead and go to my parents. Sounds like that's what will work best for your pup. And like you said, it'll be nice to see your family and you'll see him the next day.
It may seem weird to not be together on Christmas, but I never feel like the holidays are quality time with DH anyway. The traveling, the staying with parents/ILs, the running here there and everywhere trying to see all the family and friends....it's exhausting! If going your separate ways for a day makes it less stressful, I'd do it.
Maybe you guys can have your own Christmas before you leave. DH and I always have our own little celebration right before we take off because otherwise there'd be no time for just the two of us. We go out for a nice dinner, have a bottle of wine (or two
), exchange gifts and spend the evening watching Christmas movies and cuddling. It's like the last night of relaxation before the craziness begins.
"Nation, I always try to eat locally - in that if something's within arm's reach, I jam it in my mouth." ~Stephen Colbert
Thanks for making me feel like it's not totally horrible to not spend Christmas together. We'll probably try to have our own "Christmas" celebration something this weekend. Or Thursday night when I finish finals.
I like the idea of making him do all the driving. lol. We may end up taking up 2 cars. My sister wasn't supposed to graduate college until this spring but she recently decided to graduate a semester early and move to Africa for a year. Her graduation is now the week before Christmas so if my advisor lets me leave early for Christmas, I'm heading up early alone.
First Christmas! I couldn't do it. I'd see if I could find a friend who could "dog sit" or maybe a neighbor of his parents that he may know who could watch the pup for a few hours.
I'd have to try everything first.