July 2010 Weddings
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Gift for hubby. Poll!
He put on a wish list that he wanted a gift card to the ski resort we got to in NY. We have already talked about going in January anyways. But here's my thing...his unemployment ran out, so if we go in January, I'd be footing the bill.
Doesn't it seem kind of stupid to get him a gift card for a trip I'd be paying for anyways? Hey, here's a gift card I bought so you can pretend to pay for the trip I'm really paying for anyways.
Even though he's asking for it, I'd almost rather get him a gift card for something he could actually use for himself.
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Re: Gift for hubby. Poll!
Could he have asked for it because he really wants to go but thinks you guys might not now because of his unemployment? I think I would still get him the giftcard. Can it be used towards multiple things at the resort?
I got DH a night at a B&B because he did not know what he wanted and we are trying to cut back. So this way we still get to go but it does not feel like "another thing" now its a gift.
I dont know if hes thinking about it like that - meaning get me a gift certificate so i can pretend to be paying for it later. Maybe its just because you guys dont know when you'd take the trip so a certificate would be easier to schedule later (since im sure more costs will be incurred during the trip - dinners, etc that maybe you cant budget for right now w/o him having a job).
If i was in your situation and Zig asked for that, I'd give him what he asked for.
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Isn't all money coming into the house (collective) your money? I guess that's the part that I'm having a hard time with. It would be like me saying, well since I make more money than DH, in essence anything he buys me for Christmas - I'm actually buying myself.
Unless you keep your money separate...
The point isn't so much about who's money is buying what, at least in my opinion. It's about the giving of a gift. He might be asking for a gift certificate to the ski resort because he wants to share his gift with you - to spend some time together. Or maybe he knows that a trip in January financially doesn't make sense so he would like the gift certificate so that you know you'll make a point of going some other time.
Like pp asked, is the gift certificate valid to use in other aspects of the resort (ie. restaurant, gift shop, rentals, spa, etc.). If so, perhaps he'd like the gift cert so that when you do go, there won't be as much of a financial burnden at that time. I know it's essentially a wash in the end, but it always feels better using gift cards instead of your own money.
Sorry for the long response!!
We actually do still have separate accounts for the most part. We have one joint account that we have only used for bills...and based on our budget, we both contributed our share to that account, we then knew the monthly staples were paid for, but anything extra that was his, he kept to do as he pleased with, and same with me.
He still had a little of his own money...so any gifts he's buying for me are truly his own gifts to me. (With the exception that I've picked up little things like a new wallet or a pair of slippers and tell him to have one of the kids wrap it up for me, because I know he doesn't have the extra cash right now to help the kids with all their gifts too.)
I guess I just feel weird about giving him a card that will be used for "our" trip. I want to get him a gift, if that makes sense. Yes...the card can be used in other areas of the resort, like for dinner or whatever.
Maybe this is just more my issue than his! Thanks ladies for your votes! I may try to feel him out though and see if that's what he really wants. If so...I'll suck it up and get him what he wants! XD