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Suggestions needed
So my DH is the most wonderful man and went I have major knee surgery last year he was there for me in every way. When I was suffering from some depression before that he was there for me. Now, DH seems to be suffering from some serious seasonal depression. He has been so down lately and hates winter. He keeps talking about how he can't ride his motorcycle, how it is so cold and just seems really depressed. I am trying to cheer him up and be there for him but I really don't know what to do. If we had the money we could take a mini-vaca but due to my surgery we are really tight on funds and have no money to even stay overnight one night somewhere. I need help. Any suggestions?????
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Re: Suggestions needed
I think your heart is in the right place but if your H is really suffering from some seasonal depression then it's going to take more than one night or day of something fun to get him out of his funk. If you think he is truly suffering with an ongoing issue I think the most loving and responsible thing you could do is talk to him about talking to his doctor. Depression is treatable. There is no reason anyone should suffer through it without intervention.
If you guys need to reconnect and support each other, try engaging in some of his hobbies with him at home - whatever they may be. Learn about his passions, ask him to teach you about the ones you don't know, start watching football with him or asking him to show you what he's doing while fixing his bike, etc.
Good luck.
This.
Is there anything else he likes to do that you could find to do that's free / cheap? Like, DH loves to play cards, so the 1st Friday of the month we play Euchre at a church. It's $5 for a night out together.
Or maybe arrange a guys' night for him with some of his buddies?
I know with MH the key is to keep him engaged, busy, and out of the house. He can't stand to be cooped up in the house all winter, and I think that led to so me depressive-type symptoms last year, although he'd never admit it.
GL!
Does he have any books on motorcycle maintenance? Most of the cyclists I know stay engaged with their bikes over the Winter by doing any of the maintenance that needs done on it, adding any extra touches to it - so that when that first perfect day in Spring comes, they're ready to roll. Polishing all the chrome, conditioning the leather seat - that kind of thing. Maybe you could suggest that and make him a little gift box of supplies for it.
Also - and REALLY inexpensive - when the snow hits, we act like little kids in our yard. We go outside and make snow angels, have a snowball fight - we even have innertubes for sledding. It's supposed to snow on Sunday I think. We have a blast remembering what Winter was like before we got crotchety.