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MIL Vent...
So it all started before Thanksgiving...MIL said she gave up Thanksgiving with us so we had to come for Christmas Eve. No big deal except that well she told us she was going to NYC with SIL for Thanksgiving before we even had a chance to try to make plans. Here's the other thing...H and his family are Jewish. They've never celebrated Christmas for as long as we've been together, or even before. I converted but my parents still celebrate Christmas so we go over there for dinner Christmas Eve because it means a lot to my mom. MIL married a man who among other things ruins every holiday because he's the most miserable person I've ever met. He celebrates Christmas so she wants us to come there for him. H has tried to compromise by saying that we'll do an early dinner with them and then we'll go to my mom's but she told him that he's selfish and that she hopes he's happy with his new life and his new family because if he can't stay the whole night for Christmas Eve to not bother coming at all. She also won't accept any other option for us coming up. Nevermind the fact that H will be leaving his job early (hopefully) so we can make this possible. She keeps saying he's still being selfish. It really upsets me and even though he acts like it doesn't bother him, I know it does. I don't know what to do because I don't want to break my mom's heart but I also don't want H to fight with his mom. Ugh, you'd think having family's that celebrate different holidays would make it easier, but I guess not!
Ok rant over...sorry ladies I just had to get it out!
Re: MIL Vent...
That would piss me off! Can you plan an after-Christmas Christmas celebration with her or something? I wouldn't skip hanging out with your family on a holiday they celebrate just because she's throwing a tantrum (which is exactly what she's doing).
What does your H want to do?
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
When you get married you have to combine your lives and that includes holidays. Sounds like your MIL is having a hard time understanding that and letting it go. Christmas is a bigger deal to your parents because they're both actually Christian.
I'm sorry you have to go through this, family drama at holiday time is so tedious.
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That's ridiculous! You should go to your parents house since they actually celebrate it.
I'm Jewish, we had a Jewish wedding, H isn't Jewish and his family isn't, obviously we celebrate Hanukkah and not Christmas at home, and we celebrate Hanukkah with my family since they're all Jewish, but H's family still celebrates Christmas and they aren't Jewish so we still go there for Christmas, as we should.
That's like saying if my family wanted to randomly celebrate Christmas, but we're all Jewish, and we go there over going to H's family, who aren't Jewish and really do celebrate Christmas!!!
What a mess. You should go to your family, not his.
P.S. This made me LOL.
Hehe I'm glad. It's rather amusing to think about...if it weren't happening to us. He literally on Passover said every degrading thing I think he could possible about Jewish people/culture/Passover. And MIL just took it. And she wonders why we don't like to spend time with him.
He sounds like a disrespectful pompous ass. I don't get why your MIL would put up with him if he degrades her religion/history/culture at length on a regular basis.
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I HATE when parents make their poor mate choices their kid's problem - your MIL and her H would drive me bonkers. It is certainly not your H's problem that she decided to marry an azzhole; he definitely shouldn't feel like he has to go to Christmas to appease her and her poor choices.
And to add, he disrespects his wife's (and yours and your H's) religion!?!
Ugh, I'm angry for you.
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
I know! That's why we get so upset. It's ridiculous...it really is. Idk what's going on...MIL has been up and down all week. She's told him the compromise is ok then she tells him it's not. It would be nice if she could just make up her mind.
Yeah on Passover when he did that and H said something to him (much more politely than I would have btw) she got mad at H...her son. I think what makes me even more upset is that SIL just takes it too. I can't stand to see it...it's really sad.