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Minor Adoption Update
We found out today that the birth father's mother wants to meet us. So IN 15 DAYS!!!! on the 28th, we're meeting the birth mom, her sister and her mother at 10am, and then at 1pm we're meeting the birth dad and his mother. I'm wondering how many more people will be invited to this before all is said and done.
3 out of 4 dead babies agree! pepsi is better than coke! - EdithBouvierBeale
Lordy. Grow some balls and stop lurking. It's like stealing from the internet. Jesuschrist. -- AudreyHorne
I hate love and marriage. I got married so I could destroy these things from the inside. - NoisyPenguin
It's a good thing my circle of trust is as giant as my vagina. That only leaves a couple people out. - Cali
Re: Minor Adoption Update
wow! Are you cool with all that?
I know they hold influence over the birth parents, but it still just comes down to what they want, right? That's a weird way of wording what I'm trying to say... I guess I'm just thinking of what it would feel like to be in your shoes and not knowing how all this works, I'd be worried of an inquisition by a circus of people.
How many meetings do you have to "put up with". If Uncle Jo decides in the 11th hour to meet you, do you have to oblige or risk losing the baby?
I can't imagine the stress, Groomz. I hope everything goes smoothly for you guys! If you need me to do your makeup, just let me know and I'll be there in 2 shakes of a lambs tail.
After all the lousy posts lately I was really scared to open this one, yea for good news! Are the parents not on speaking terms or is normal to meet both sides separately? Will the case worker be there for both meetings?
I imagine they will be very happy with their decision once they meet you. Good luck/congrats!
EEP. This is so exciting, and also scary. SCARY EXCITING!
I'm so happy for you guys. I hope all of the meeting stuff goes smoothly. make sure you bring your dolphin picture with you!
White people are so demanding.
How exciting and terrifying for you guys at the same time! I have no doubts they're all going to love you so much they'll want you to adopt them too. Just practice pretending you're hearing, "You guys are just like the gay couple on Modern Family!" for the first time.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Fallin, we're expecting a girl and she's due on February 8. The birth father knows about us and is on board with the adoption plan. He was raised by two women, so he's 100% okay with 2 boys.
We only have to do meetings with the parents, but they can pretty much bring whoever they want (within reason). I think at this point, if the birth mom asked to bring more people, her social worker would try to talk her out of it. So we won't have to meet Uncle Maurice unless she brings him on the 28th.
If I let myself think about it too much, I'd be stressing about having to impress that many people, but we have no control over it, and we really can't request that they uninvite their families, so there's no point in stressing just yet.
It is up to the parents, and the parents only, but that doesn't mean their parents won't influence their decision. Generally, these meetings are considered a formality and it's rare for anyone to change their minds after them, but that doesn't mean it can't happen.
3 out of 4 dead babies agree! pepsi is better than coke! - EdithBouvierBeale
Lordy. Grow some balls and stop lurking. It's like stealing from the internet. Jesuschrist. -- AudreyHorne
I hate love and marriage. I got married so I could destroy these things from the inside. - NoisyPenguin
It's a good thing my circle of trust is as giant as my vagina. That only leaves a couple people out. - Cali
And I know you and I absolutely adore you...
And my mom is adopted and she's a girl.
So that means you're wearing pants and everything is going to go awesome on the 28th and you're going to have a baybee soon!
You should start charging admission
How awesome and exciting and nail biting all in one.
Is the fact that he has two moms part of the reason they chose to have a gay couple parent their child? Didn't you say they had specifically requested that? I was telling my friends about that and they were very curious because they wonder about their chances to adopt and it made me hopeful.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
The birth father has asked me to come along as well. I hope you don't mind.
I'm sure you'll knock these meetings out of the park.
This post makes me so happpy!!
I do not know how anyone can not love you when they meet you. You are very charming and you put people at ease. 15 days! I am so excited for you!
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Thanks everybody!
Winged, the birthmom has a gay sister, which is what made her ask specifically for a gay couple. I don't think the father had much to do with the choice, but he had the right to veto, but did not. We assume him having gay parents at least made him open to us.
But the last birthmom, even though it didn't work out, also chose us over several straight couples, so there are folks out there who either want gay parents for their babies, or aren't going to discriminate. Are your friends in your state? The number of people who wouldn't have a problem are probably a bit higher here than there.
3 out of 4 dead babies agree! pepsi is better than coke! - EdithBouvierBeale
Lordy. Grow some balls and stop lurking. It's like stealing from the internet. Jesuschrist. -- AudreyHorne
I hate love and marriage. I got married so I could destroy these things from the inside. - NoisyPenguin
It's a good thing my circle of trust is as giant as my vagina. That only leaves a couple people out. - Cali
ooh, sounds like a large close-knit family. Is this an open adoption?
I am so ridiculously excited for you guys and your baby girl. Due in February and I bet your ankles aren't even swollen! : p
Claire Elizabeth 12/31/2011
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I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
yes, they are here. but one of them is from Philly and so they had talked of going back.