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Don't know what to do...

I knew DH was feeling down about not being home for the holidays. But he actually admitted yesterday that he's feeling depressed.  I've been really down lately myself, but more because of an overwhelming amount of stress from work and keeping our house going.  I just hate knowing that he's depressed.  He's usually a happy-go-lucky person that rarely has a "bad" day when he's home, so it just makes it that much worse knowing he's dreading every moment he's there.  I try to put on a happy face when I'm talking to him but he just sits there looking sad and depressed.  Family and friends wanted to send him something but when I'd ask what he'd like to receive he just kept saying don't send me anything. 

I feel like as his wife I should be able to make him happy, but I honestly don't see anything I can do to change his disposition.

Re: Don't know what to do...

  • I'm sorry Julie. I don't really know what to tell you other then always remind him how much you love him and how much you're looking forward to his return. Focus on your upcoming cruise and TTC, rather then missing him because he isn't home right now. I think those things should help him, it just might take a while... maybe even until after the holidays have passed. I'm sure it isn't easy for him, but obviously the only thing you can both due is stay strong and be there to listen to him. ((hugs)) I can only imagine how difficult this is right now, we're all here for you.
  • I'm so sorry sweetie! I know it must be so hard to not be able to do anything to make him feel better. I think Sarah gave you great advice about focusing on upcoming things like your cruise and TTC. Try not to get down on yourself though, that won't help either of you feel better. I can't imagine being away from family for the holidays and it might not be until after they've passed that you both start feeling better. Good luck hun and lots of ((hugs)) you guys will get through this and come out the other side even stronger and closer.
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  • I'm so sorry Julie, I think Sarah said it perfectly. I can only imagine how difficult it is, we're here if you need anything. Sending lots of hugs
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  • Thank you for all of the e-hugs!  I wish I could express how much it means to me to have you ladies to reach out to during this time apart from my husband.  I hope that the next few months fly by!

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