Would this annoy you?

Krissybeans731

Today I started baking cookies to make a cookie tray for DH's work, my work, and the neighbors.  So I'm hard at work in the kitchen and DH informs me that his mother already gave him a cookie tray to take to work, but that if I "also" wanted to make a tray for his work I could.  

Then of course he added that he didn't want to tell me about his mother's tray because then I'd eat all the cookies!!!

Now call me crazy but I just don't really understand why a mother would send a cookie tray to her 30 year old, married son's work.

 

I think just the way he told me was what really got me,  not the fact that she made the tray.  Ugh.  I took a survey of my friends and 4/6 said they would be highly annoyed lol.  So I just thought I'd see what you ladies thought. 

huskerfan1189

Is it a tradition for his mom? Something she has always done for him? If that's the case, then I'd understand. If not, then it's kind of strange.

Why can't you and DH just eat her cookies? Then he could take your cookies to work. I guess I'd probably be a little annoyed, too...

saisongbird

I would be annoyed.  I'd be very annoyed.  But I would also tread lightly.  Start by bringing it up to DH about WHY it bothers you, but he needs to have a conversation with his mother about why she can't do these types of things anymore.  Whether she likes it or not, it's really not her place to do this stuff anymore, and your DH needs to be firm about it.

l337Jacqui

annoyed.

whether this is a tradition she might do, or not, it's just not right anymore. once you are married, your mommy doesn't do these kinds of things anymore. she's crossing a line, and probably doesnt realize it, so your hubby should talk to her about it and i agree, he should be firm or else these kinds of things might pop up again. 

i guess moms dont always realize these things, but i'm not sure why lol...because it's obvious to us!  

Krissybeans731

thanks for the responses.  I told DH that I was kind of annoyed about it.  He told me that he was at his mom's house and she had her cookies out and he asked her to make up a plate for him to take to his work...

 When I first met him she used to do this every year until we moved in together.  So I guess he just wanted her to make one...she almost didn't and was saying how she didn't know if she had enough!

 Why he did this I have no idea because I have been giving him a tray every year, but he understands why I was irritated.  

 LOL the whole thing is pretty silly and reminds me of an "Everybody Loves Raymond" episode or something.  I ended up just combining the cookies and making one big tray. 

huskerfan1189

Kristen*****:

I ended up just combining the cookies and making one big tray. 

Great idea!! Then everyone is happy

saisongbird

That definitely works as a compromise for this year, but make sure your hubby knows why it hurt you.  Since your MIL isn't crossing any lines, that's fantastic, but your hubby needs to know that it's not appropriate for him to ask her to do those things - it's your role now.

l337Jacqui

saisongbird:

That definitely works as a compromise for this year, but make sure your hubby knows why it hurt you.  Since your MIL isn't crossing any lines, that's fantastic, but your hubby needs to know that it's not appropriate for him to ask her to do those things - it's your role now.

 

couldn't have said it any better! glad it wasn't your MIL crossing any lines  

GracefulMeadow86

ditto saisong and jaquii...and very glad your MIL wasnt being a jerk....that's always a hard situation.