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So its been over a month......babies?

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Re: So its been over a month......babies?

  • imageledalia:
    imageBlueyed228:

    imageledalia:
    Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

    We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

     Ummm, except you did.

     Whatever, its your life, but Steph was just pointing out that you sounded a little judgey to her by saying it.  And she has a point about the whole secrets stuff and student loans. 

    Just to clarify, I said that in regards to what my husband and I consider the ideal situation for us to have kids. Not that no one should have kids unless they have done those things. As you said, it's my life. And you both have sounded quite judgey yourselves. Plus any point that is made about a situation in which the person really has no idea what or who they are talking about is pretty much invalid.

    Oh, and $70,000 obviously doesn't buy a McMansion in Georgia. But you can get a really cute starter home for that price.

     Care to clarify?

    045_45-1 photo 045_45-1.jpg
    BabyFruit Ticker
    DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
    5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
    3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
    IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
    IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
  • imageledalia:
    imageBlueyed228:

    imageledalia:
    Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

    We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

     Ummm, except you did.

     Whatever, its your life, but Steph was just pointing out that you sounded a little judgey to her by saying it.  And she has a point about the whole secrets stuff and student loans. 

    Just to clarify, I said that in regards to what my husband and I consider the ideal situation for us to have kids. Not that no one should have kids unless they have done those things. As you said, it's my life. And you both have sounded quite judgey yourselves. Plus any point that is made about a situation in which the person really has no idea what or who they are talking about is pretty much invalid.

    Oh, and $70,000 obviously doesn't buy a McMansion in Georgia. But you can get a really cute starter home for that price.

     

    Dang.  All we want is a starter-size home.  The one we're renting now would cost about $170,000 if we were to buy it in NC (Raleigh suburb - it'd be higher or lower depending on other areas in the state).  

     

    Georgia, you say....hmm....

  • imagejnc1113:
    imageledalia:
    imageBlueyed228:

    imageledalia:
    Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

    We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

     Ummm, except you did.

     Whatever, its your life, but Steph was just pointing out that you sounded a little judgey to her by saying it.  And she has a point about the whole secrets stuff and student loans. 

    Just to clarify, I said that in regards to what my husband and I consider the ideal situation for us to have kids. Not that no one should have kids unless they have done those things. As you said, it's my life. And you both have sounded quite judgey yourselves. Plus any point that is made about a situation in which the person really has no idea what or who they are talking about is pretty much invalid.

    Oh, and $70,000 obviously doesn't buy a McMansion in Georgia. But you can get a really cute starter home for that price.

     

    Dang.  All we want is a starter-size home.  The one we're renting now would cost about $170,000 if we were to buy it in NC (Raleigh suburb - it'd be higher or lower depending on other areas in the state).  

     

    Georgia, you say....hmm....

     

    Im assuming that housing prices are all relative to cost of living and salaries.  If you can buy a house in GA for 70K, I doubt you will be making 100K a year as a combined income.  That would also mean that your debt at that income would not be what it would be in a different region as well.  If you have 75K in debt/loans, and only make 20K a year, than you have made some seriously bad decisions.

     Around here you cannot get a decent house for under 300K.  But I would assume that our combined income would make us quasi-millionaires in other parts of the country.  Here we would probably beclassified as middle/upper middle class.

    045_45-1 photo 045_45-1.jpg
    BabyFruit Ticker
    DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
    5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
    3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
    IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
    IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
  • imagejnc1113:
    imageledalia:
    imageBlueyed228:

    imageledalia:
    Logic fail = taking everything I said about my husband and I wanting to be debt free without a mortgage in TEN years and applying it to your own situation which is obviously completely different from mine. $70,000 would be the entire cost or a little less than the entire cost of a house to us... which means that with patience and savings it is possible to pull off buying a house debt free depending on your price range. It's just a little dream we have right now and we have no idea if we will actually do it. And I never said no one should have kids until they are debt free including a mortgage. How ridiculous is that?

    We agreed to start in ten years, once we are in our early 30s, but only if we have no debt (we are fiercely attacking student loans and will be debt free after that), lots of savings for emergencies and retirement, and own our home (no mortgage).

     Ummm, except you did.

     Whatever, its your life, but Steph was just pointing out that you sounded a little judgey to her by saying it.  And she has a point about the whole secrets stuff and student loans. 

    Just to clarify, I said that in regards to what my husband and I consider the ideal situation for us to have kids. Not that no one should have kids unless they have done those things. As you said, it's my life. And you both have sounded quite judgey yourselves. Plus any point that is made about a situation in which the person really has no idea what or who they are talking about is pretty much invalid.

    Oh, and $70,000 obviously doesn't buy a McMansion in Georgia. But you can get a really cute starter home for that price.

     

    Dang.  All we want is a starter-size home.  The one we're renting now would cost about $170,000 if we were to buy it in NC (Raleigh suburb - it'd be higher or lower depending on other areas in the state).  

     

    Georgia, you say....hmm....

     

    Certain parts of Georgia do have amazing housing prices... even compared to income and cost of living. H and I have talked about the possibility of moving there (not just for that, but he is also from GA originally). I doubt we'll ever live in GA for other reasons, but we have definitely surfed the various neighborhoods and drooled over the homes!

  • I may start scanning the real estate websites just to see!  H and I are moving to SC in a year and a half, and we know the area where we're moving is a little more expensive than where we are now, so alas....it'll just be a lot of entertainment looking at the GA sites rather than future research!
  • imagejnc1113:
    I may start scanning the real estate websites just to see!  H and I are moving to SC in a year and a half, and we know the area where we're moving is a little more expensive than where we are now, so alas....it'll just be a lot of entertainment looking at the GA sites rather than future research!

     

    If you want to feel better, check out listings for my area... I would tell you, but you probably wouldn't believe me LOL!

  • I have family out in your area, and so I have a pretty good idea.  If I had to buy out there....I'd cry!!!!  Wink
  • Pregnant~honeymoon was a success!
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  • Not pregnant and not trying yet (BCP).

    We want 2-4 kids and will start TTC in 2-3 years. I'm 25 and he's 24 so we will definitely have some other life goals (finishing grad school, further advancing our careers) that we would like to achieve before babies. Not sure when I will go off the pill...

    We have told our friends and family who have asked what our plans are, what I hate are people like co-workers asking too many questions. :)

  • PREGNANT!  Honeymoon was a success!!
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