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Am I being too sensitive?
Honestly, I know that as of lately, my hormones are getting the best of me and I seem to be getting my feelings hurt quite easily, but I'm a bit hurt at the following:
A month or two ago my MIL told us she would be spending xmas with us. She has to work Xmas eve and the next day and my BIL/SIL's house is under construction. SIL tells me they don't know what they'll do for Xmas since their house is under construction and doesn't know if her sister will want to host Xmas eve and Xmas. She said they'd probably just go out to dinner. So I say why don't we do Xmas together, I will not spend it with my family and we will have all of DH's family sleep over and do Xmas with that side of the family (we haven't done that since FIL passed 4 years ago). Plus we are already having MIL (we had her last year too) and their family friend who does all the holidays with DH's family (we're basically his family).
Well, SIL declines because turns out they want to do Xmas with her family and her neices. That hurt because my son is her nephew and godson. And MH is BIL's only sibling. Not to mention their mom will be here.
Part II: Last year my brother/SIL moved back to ME they wanted us all to sleep at my parents in the worst way to wake up together. But we had my MIL and the family friend sleeping over and didn't want them to be uncomfortable. Well, once again, we're told we have MIL and family friend and its really going to be one of the last years we can sleep at my parents because the kids are rolling in and it'll be crazy in the next years. So I decide that we'll do Xmas at my folks, they have 5 bedrooms, and an apartment with its own bathroom/kitchen. So MIL and family friend will have their own rooms and even bathrooms.
Now MIL isn't coming until Xmas morning "sometime". Because since we're sleeping at my parents its "too far", even though its actually closer if not the EXACT SAME DISTANCE to where she lives. Family friend just wrote and said he'll drive up when BIL/SIL get there Xmas night.
I'm just so hurt. They wanted to do Xmas with us, but apparently that means us only. Over thanksgiving both MIL and family friend slept at SIL's parents house. They sleep over SIL's parents house every other holiday and spend every other holiday with SIL's family. They both have known my family for 7 years. I'm just really upset because my family is part of me and if spending Xmas with SIL/BIL means with her family that is okay. But to spend it with me and DH and my family - all of sudden there is a million excuses why they can't.
Sorry so long.
Re: Am I being too sensitive?
I'd be hurt too, and with pg horomones I'm sure it feels even worse. Sometimes holiday season is so sensitive for many of us -- we think it should be about being together, but that seems to get more difficult to do.
Is there an upside -- would MIL have driven you crazy if she came earlier? I do hope you will have a great time with your family -- I'm sure they're going to love spending time with you guys!
Hmmm, I'd probably be relieved.
This!
I can see why it would be hurtful especially since your MIL has no problem hanging out with SIL's family. I don't know, I'm not really into blending our families that much myself; I don't mind if they hang out for special occasions, but the thought of spending the night in one house with my family and his sounds like a nightmare to me.
Ahh, thanks ladies. MM this is what my DH's reaction was when I finally just let him know how I was feeling
I think I'd be hurt too. She is ok with spending time with her other child's in-laws, but suddenly changes her plans when it means spending time with your family???
However, I would NOT take it personally. It may be something more than what you (and we) are reading into it.
Spend time with your family, and enjoy it. It really may be the last time it happens like that. Take full advantage while you still can.
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Definitely the hormones, b/c otherwise the non-pregnant tripin would have told her (or to us at least) to get bent :P She always has to change the plans. Definitely stinks though and is hurtful.