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Poll for Moms
So it's kind of long, but here's the scenario....
You have a friend lined up to baby-sit on a Friday evening, been scheduled for a month. Originally you were going out to dinner with friends, then back to your place for games afterward, so you told friend/sitter to figure on ~2-2.5 hours. On the Tues. prior, the dinner is cancelled, but friend offers to come anyhow since you have some Christmas shopping to finish up. Friday rolls around and your child is sick. Like, puking-all-day sick.
What do you do?
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Re: Poll for Moms
I voted the first option. Although, it depends on who the sitter/friend is.
When I called to cancel, I would still offer for them to come over and and least hang out since plans for the night fell thru. And if they declined, I would totally understand. Sometimes its just nice to hang and chitchat for a little bit.
But I think it is TOTAL BS if someone expect you to watch their sick kids with no warning. I mean some people don't handle puke.
I voted first option too and I agree with PP.
Here's my other thing, too...even if the sitter is ok with watching the child...most children who are that sick want their mommies, not some sitter. I kinda think its crappy to put shopping as a priority over staying home with your child if they are that sick, too.
Ditto Kel.
Of course there's a story, haha! And now that I know I'm not unreasonable for being a bit upset, I'll share it.
This scenario happened to me this past Friday. I was the friend/sitter, obviously. I came over to the friend's house right from work, so I got there at about 4:30. I was figuring on being there probably 3-3.5 hours instead of 2-2.5, because this friend always takes longer than she says she will. Well the puking sick thing put me off right away - I would have at least liked a warning - but I figured oh well. Then friend tells me that C still doesn't fully "get" the puking thing, so if I hear her cough, I better either run her to the bathroom or put a pot under her b/c otherwise it will be everywhere... SUPER! <Luckily, she did NOT get sick while I was there though.> But in any case, she left around 4:50 and got home at, get this.... 10:40. Seriously. She acted super duper appreciative when she got home b/c she was able to get her shopping done, but I couldn't help but feel like she didn't give a crap about me. I think it will be a long while before I'm available to baby-sit again....
My mouth is on the floor right now. My little girl isn't even here yet, but if she was that sick, I would for sure be staying at home with her. Like pp said, sick children prefer to have their mommies, and I would want to be home with her anyhow. Shopping can be done another day... And to be gone that long too. Wow...
Our baby girl!!
That sucks and I would be upset too. How inconsiderate of her.
I kinda figured there was a story behind this poll, but hly snowballs.
Is this the chick you always have problems with?
That's ridiculous Merin!!! I would NOT expect someone to take care of my puking child, and honestly I'd be pretty POed if I had that situation happen to me too as a sitter.
Yup! I really should know better by now, but I really do want to spend time with the kids, so I try to give her the benefit of the doubt.
I've tried giving a "time limit" to my baby-sitting by saying there's somewhere I have to be, but then she complains and/or is still late. I've also tried taking the kids out someplace with me so that then I can just drop them back off, but a couple of the times I did that, I came back and she wasn't even home!
I dont even know this chick and she makes me angry. I want to punch her.
I am ALWAYS on time when I have a babysitter, even if they say they dont care how long I am gone. And I ALWAYS call when I am on my way home or to pick up.
I guess I just have more respect for people doing me a favor. She just plan takes advantage of the situation.
And to not even be there when you bring them back? WTF!
Oh Merin, you are TOO nice!!
First, as a mom, I wouldn't leave Davis with a sitter if he was that sick because as a mom and a person that was a child at one time, you just want your mom when your sick, no matter what the sickness. Second, she was gone for 3 times longer than she said!!! I'd NEVER do that, even if my child wasn't sick. That is just rude.
WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope she at least paid you!!
God, I'm really angry for you. seriously, if I were you it would be a long time before I ever helped her out again.
A puking incident ended my babysitting career when I was 14. I babysat my cousins did this on a regular basis...like nearly every weekend). One night, younger cousin, already in bed, wakes up and pukes all over the place. My being the teenager I was, could not handle it, called uncle and demanded they come home right away. The next night I was puking my guts out. Fun.
I voted #1. So not acceptable of your "friend" on so many levels. If you want to see the kids, I would spend time with them at her place and while she is there. If she can't show you respect, then she can keep her butt at home! (she made me mad.. hehe)
Absolutely, 100% THIS!!!!! Why on earth would anyone leave a sick child with a sitter for a non-emergency reason???????