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If father/step-mom invited you for dinner event w/ a set menu/ private room on Christmas Eve (when they were originally going to host at their home but changed their mind the week before) would you assume you would pay per person?
I don't have any problem paying I guess, it could add up to a lot for him to pick up for everyone but I'm not sure what the etiquette here is.
My sister seems to think he is collecting 60 dollars per person ahead of time- but he hasn't mentioned that to me or my husband.
Me-27- DH- 38 -Moved to New York*
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Re: Who Pays?
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
You need to clarify this with Dad & Step-Mom. Every family is different, but considering they went from originally hosting the event in their home to now wanting to have it in an upscale restaurant charging $60 ( ...so we think) per person without consulting the guests invited, I would assume this would be their treat. BUT, I would certainly not attend 'blindly' w/o confirming that first.
FWIW, I would be a little miffed if DH and I were 'expected' to just lay out $120 + a week before Christmas. There's nothing wrong with them not wanting to host the holiday anymore and rethinking it (eventhough it would have been more considerate to do this sooner rather than later) but if a restaurant is where everyone will end up, it should be a group decision. Everyone's finances are different and you don't want to end up offending someone.
I agree with you guys so much! I think I am a little pissed that they changed it at the last minute and choose an upscale place without consulting everyone else's budgets. If I had known that we were going to be throwing in all that money I might have thought twice before spending 100+ dollars on my Stepmom and several hundred more on Dad!
But I am going to just ask him straight-out- see what he says.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.