No orgasms anymore...

cristy818

I need serious help. I have to admit that I'm always horny. The problem is that in the last month, even when I feel desire all the time; can't achieve an orgasm. Have no problems with my husband, but I'm just trying to get really excited and into something specific so it builds up anticipation but he doesn't seem to get it and I don't want to hurt him. 

How do I release all this energy I have and all the frustration for not coming????? 

claire1983

So are you faking it right now then? Must be or else he would know whatever he is doing isn't working...I know its hard thing to talk about but if the situation were reversed wouldn't you want hi$ to let you know if you coulf make sex better for him? You don't have to have a big talk either you can just show him what you like one night during foreplay.

PixieChinchilla

Have you tried using toys at all? We keep a little pocket sized vibrator next to the bed, because I sometimes get stuck at an almost orgasm and can't quite get there. When that happens, we just lean over and grab it and after that I usually have no problem at all.

DaringMiss

Sometimes you just have to bust the dam!

Right now, you are psyching yourself out of the orgasm, so you need to clear your mind/have a glass of wine, lay on the bed with your favorite stimulating material (written erotica, porn movies, toys) and masturbate until you reach orgasm.  

Seriously, a woman can be a danger to herself and society if she is roaming the streets with her mojo on high! 

DLLadybug

DaringMiss:

Sometimes you just have to bust the dam!

Right now, you are psyching yourself out of the orgasm, so you need to clear your mind/have a glass of wine, lay on the bed with your favorite stimulating material (written erotica, porn movies, toys) and masturbate until you reach orgasm.  

Seriously, a woman can be a danger to herself and society if she is roaming the streets with her mojo on high! 

This!

The more you focus on trying to have that orgasm, the least likely you will have one. Just relax and enjoy the motion, and you'll be more likely to get there.

I used to think I was one of those people that never had orgasms until I just relaxed. Sex is a great tension releaser and if you're all worried about getting the "O" then you're just going to make yourself more frustrated.

If you are faking it, that isn't the best idea. It's good to be honest. If I know for darn sure I'm not getting anywhere, I tell him, "Doesn't look like I'm going to orgasm." I had already talked to my husband before that just because I don't orgasm doesn't necessarily mean I didn't enjoy having sex with him.

Magnetra1

Have you thought about helping him out? Most guys get really turned on to see you pleasuring yourself. Especially when he is at the same time. Maybe try masterbating while he is inside you. It's a totally different feeling for you and him. He will get a better orgasm as well!

blueballs32

Dont wait for him to give it to you. Start petting your kitty and make yourself feel better!