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Need vs. Want Poll
Hello all!
There is a thread on Relationships regarding the terms Need and Want. As in you don't really "need" you S/O but you "want" them in your life. Alot of debate on how these terms are used. So here's a simple poll....
How would you classify your "desire" for your S/O in your life?
Do you NEED them in your life?
or
Do you WANT them in your life?
or Both?
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Re: Need vs. Want Poll
I WANT her in my life. To me a NEED is what you absolutely must have to survive - basic food, water, air, some shelter, a few $$, etc. I don't NEED K in order to live. My life is just much more pleasant with her, thus I WANT her to stay.
But I can see how NEED can be definitely different. This is just how it is laid out in my head.
I would have to agree with this. I could certainly survive without DW, but I wouldn't want to. We married each other because we wanted to be with each other forever, not because we need each other. I think we help each other meet certain needs (example: two incomes > one income, two people > one person to run errands or make dinner), but it wouldn't be impossible if we didn't have each other.
Ask me when I've been traveling for work for 8 weeks straight and I might give you a different answer.
Ditto.
I feel like NEEDING someone in a relationship is dangerous territory.
I would divide needs into two categories: basic needs and needs for a happy, healthy life. My basic needs are things I require for survival like food, water, shelter. These are animal needs, but not what makes me human. Once those are met, there are other things I need to maintain a fulfilled existence, like art, some activity that makes me feel purposeful, and sunlight. I consider these needs, because I'd would go crazy without them and lose what makes me "me".
In contrast, "wants" for me are luxuries. I'd like them, and they may add some richness to my life, but I'll be fine, sane and okay without them. Not having a want isn't the end of the world. Yoga falls into this category. And travel.
In this framework, DW isn't really a luxury, more of a need (just not a basic need for survival). She's obviously not crucial for my continued existence but our relationship certainly contributes a lot of joy and and fulfillment to my life. I was very happy b4 I met her, and I'm sure I could be happy again if she were gone, but she's a pretty essential part of what makes my life great right now (and for the past 7 years).