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Observation/Need Reassurance
Morning ladies,
The last time I was at my ILs house, I noticed that they had no pictures displayed or framed anywhere from H's and my wedding. Isn't that kind of weird? All they have is our wedding save-the-date magnet still on their fridge from 3 years ago, and then I made them a little wedding album for MIL's bday last year, which they keep on a table.
Ok, ok... I can imagine Nicole saying "so what, who says they have to have a pic of your wedding on display?" (haha, shout out to Nicole) but it just seems to me like most parents would like one displayed somewhere... right?
So as part of their holiday gift (or maybe even for the whole thing, let's be honest) I was thinking I'd frame a nice 8x10 or even 5x7 pic of H and I from our wedding. Or is that too narcissistic? I could also frame a posed family pic with them in it from our wedding, but that would have my parents and sister in it too, and I doubt they really need a framed pic of my family in their living room.
What do you think about everything I wrote? Yeah, I rambled on about this, sorry 
Re: Observation/Need Reassurance
Go for it. You know what's REALLY funny? When we were at my IL's last time, I noticed that the ONLY picture they had out of our wedding was his stepmom with her ex-husband's daughter. (She was a total wedding crasher BTW - she came with her mom who is MIL's friend, and then because stepmother's niece "didn't show" they let her come sit at their table! Even though she wasn't invited to the wedding!!!)
We left and I said to DH, "Don't you find it weird that the only wedding picture they have out is of Grace and Marissa????" He agreed. Needless to say, their wedding gift is a photo book from our wedding.
Ding ding ding! We have a winner. My mother has NO photos of me in her house. She has pics up of Little Sis and DD, but not one of me or H at our wedding. Don't take it personally. Maybe they just didn't want to buy an 8x10, or maybe they don't want everything so wedding-ified. IDK. Not your house, not your style, not your business I say.
Also, aren't you the one with the estranged ILs?
ETA: Do what you want in terms of a gift. It's a gift, right? If they don't appreciate it, that's on them. You think it's nice and would bring you joy to give to them, and that's all that matters from your end of things, IMO.
Not weird that they don't have any pictures displayed. The only photos displayed in ILs house are ones that DH prints and frames for them...
I say go for it! It's a fine gift.
See, this is what I wanted, I was wondering if maybe it's not as weird as I think it is for his parents to not have pics of us. I like getting different perspectives!
Yeah, that's me
Although they're not estranged thankfully, MH just has a tense/awkward r'ship with them right now. But they want us to come to their house on Christmas night so H said that was fine. I even texted with both of them a little yesterday (just to make sure it was ok to bring a Kahlua cake) and all our exchanges were friendly. The thing that will be interesting is BIL will be there and I haven't seen him in 1.5 years. I always try to be friendly to him but he's never much spoken to me in all the years I've known him.
Yeah, that's really weird! I wonder why they have that one pic displayed, out of all your wedding pics? Very odd!
Lauren- I'm going to have to kind of agree with you on this one. But, like one of the pps said, both sides of our families are photo obsessed.
Part of our wedding photography package included (2) 8x10 enlargements for our parents. We had them choose which photo they wanted. My parents chose a formal one of just H & I. ILs chose a family shot. I'm glad I let them pick.
For a wedding gift, we gave each of our parents a digital photo frame & uploaded all the wedding pictures on it before we gave it to them. Both of our parents love it!
In fact, our grandparents enjoy the frames so much we made them one too. That might be a good idea for your ILs & might make you feel less 'narcissistic' with rotating pictures.
Cool idea, what type of frame? Is it online anywhere so I can see it?
We bought all the frames at Best Buy.
The frame we got for our grandparents...
http://tinyurl.com/otherframe
The quality on this one isn't nearly as good as the kodak frame. I had to use a memory stick to load the pictures & it didn't hold nearly as many... but... it was a lot cheaper.
http://tinyurl.com/2ft65sb
This is the frame we bought our parents. The quality is excellent, it holds tons of pictures but... is more $$ than the other. I'd rec this one though. It's great.
Thanks Jen, I really appreciate the links!
I don't think there are any wedding pictures up @ my ILs house.. I think I gave them a few, but I don't remember.
I did make my MIL a little wedding album on one of those photo sites, OMG my memory is crap today, and she has it..somewhere. There is a picture from our engagement up on a dresser thing that is inside the door way- along w/ 600 other pictures of the family.
Mymom is also picture obsessed, but oddly she does not have any of our wedding pictures. Actually she has a Christmas picture of us from 2006 in her office on the wall. weird.
I gave my MIL a frame last Christmas that had four photo spots. There was a picture of me & H, one of her and H, one of the entire family, and one of his immediate family. Well, the frame is still up, with one of those pictures, but the others has been changed. Nice.
I do personally find it odd that they (or anyone) doesn't have any wedding pictures, or pictures of their family up. But that is just me, I am picture OBSESSED and I know that many people would find that weird as well.
I love the digital frame idea. DH got me one a few years ago, and he loaded it with a ton of pics before he gave it to me. I think it is one of my favorite gifts ever. However I am sure that someone who doesn't love pictures wouldn't care for that either.
My father has no photos of me or my brothers in his house - anywhere. He has two professionally taken and framed portraits of the dogs, though.
And I'm pretty sure he kept pictures of Lily in his office, but that's it.
I do find it weird, but that's just him.
My silly Lily is almost 4.