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Oral sex...blah
I've never finished a BJ. The thought of DH ejaculating in my mouth makes me want to vomit. Usually I go down on him for a few minutes and then finish with a hand job (or sex, depends on the situation). DH really wants me to finish. '
What do most people do? Am I totally alone in finding this disgusting?
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Re: Oral sex...blah
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Is his spunk funky?
All I can think of is Samantha Jones who had the boyfriend with the gross tasting spunk in SATC.
She had him load up on pineapple juice. hehe
You've never finished a blowjob? How old are you? :
I'm curious: what about it grosses you out specifically -- are you afraid of the taste? The texture? The fact that little tiny microscopic living things are gonna go down your gullet?
I mean, I could understand if it takes your DH a long time to finish (a girl's jaws can only hold out so long)...but I totally disagree with you on this one, sorry.
I think this describes me too. Of course, I've only been having sex for a couple months now (we waited before getting married), so we're still having fun exploring other options/positions. ;-)
We were watching "The Best of Katie Morgan" (she's a porn star) on HBO last night and one of the questions asked of her was "Spit or swallow?" Her answer was "Neither." She doesn't let anyone ejaculate in her mouth because the texture makes her gag.
So if a porn star won't do it, I'd say it's okay for you not to do it.
I have this same problem. So much that DH has recently mentioned his desire for me to do it more often (I have only been successful a handful of time) and when I think about doing I go from the thought of pleasuring him to trying to coach myself that I will be ok, don't gag, etc. I think if I could get past the thought process it would be ok.
Are you a retard?
Oh boy... Will you grow the f**k up already? If he were ejaculating cyanide, I can understand why you wouldn't want to take it in your mouth. The fact of the matter is, it's not poison. It's not going to kill you. Sure, it might be unpleasant for a few seconds, but if he can perform oral on you until you finish, there's NO reason whatsoever that it's acceptable for you to NEVER reciprocate.
My personal trick is to swallow it as it comes out. Don't pause and leave it in your mouth. Don't taste it. Just swallow it. Afterwards, go have a tall glass of water. Weren't you ever fed lima beans as a kid? Do now what you did then: SWALLOW IT WHOLE OR LEAVE IT IN YOUR MOUTH UNTIL YOU CAN SPIT IT OUT!
I'm pretty sure I'd be okay with H finishing me with his finger or with a toy if finishing me with oral made him gag, he's helped me finish like that before and it was still awesome, I think you can reciprocate without letting him *** in your mouth if it bothers you. It's not like your giving him head and right before he finishes you just stop everything, you still finish him off, he still gets to O and he still gets to enjoy it, just not in your mouth.
If my H hates something we might try it a couple times but if he is bothered by it we won't do it after that, instead we'll find a compromise, and the same goes for me. I don't think it's a matter of growing the F**k up. When I try to let H finish in my mouth I gag, I don't want to but it happens and so we do other things (I finish him with my hands(I'm using them when I give head anyway, finish on chest, finish with sex), if you can't do it you find a way that still makes you both happy.
Jesus. Take an effing Xanax.
OP, like others have said, it's not sexy if you puke on him afterwards. Do what you have to do and don't stress about what the rest of the world thinks.
Dude, I am totally the opposite. (but then again, I am a bit of a kinky broad.)
I LOVE to give MH a BJ. I love to feel the shaft slide in and out of my mouth, I have learned to tame the gag reflex and shove that puppy back. Hearing men moan and be totally submissive to me is an ultra turn-on. My issue is that when a man cums that is like saying, "Oh, that was the best head. You are awesome." Yeah, MH doesn't *** during it and I have put some time in. I want some advice on that.
Yeah, if you don't like the cuming in your mouth thing just end it on a hand job. Vomit after an orgasm is never a good thing. (sorry ladies that think she should take it all in. To each it's own right?)
I agree with most. Theres nothing wrong with you.
I dont mind giving head, in fact I love the moans I get out of him...but I cant have him finish in my mouth. He did that once and I ran to the bathroom and puked (flame away but its true). Its probably mind over matter, but I dont care to try again and FI is perfectly ok with that. I go until he taps me (him saying 'ok' or 'stop' didnt work b/c he'd moan other stuff and I'd think he was telling me to pull away). This way he's getting mouth right up until he's cumming..then I pull and the very end is hand just helping it out. I highly suggest it! GL
People are inherently stupid. Weddings make it painfully obvious -- KevinandMonica
So its ok for your man to go down on you and lick and swallow your nasty juices but you can't do it for him?? Selfish is what you are. He should never perform oral on you again until you get over your selfishness. God my DH would give you the boot in a minute.
Some men, such as my FI love going down on me and is perfectly fine with an alternative ending. Im sorry that your H would give you the boot if you didnt want his juices in your mouth. Thats pretty sad. Theres more to a relationship than swallowing ***.
People are inherently stupid. Weddings make it painfully obvious -- KevinandMonica
Personally, I enjoy giving oral sex to completion and don't understand everyone's ick factor, but...
If you don't want to swallow, don't. You also don't need to take the penis so deep that you are gagging on it. Really. I happen to think that trend in porn is a real turnoff. Just keep a washcloth next to the bed and pull it towards you as you go down to perform fellatio. Complete fellatio to the point of his orgasm, but let the ejaculate sit in your mouth. When you move away from his penis, **discretely** spit in to the washcloth.
Or if you can't even do that, just continue to stroke him and shoot the stream at a sexy body part. Personally, I find "facials" to be mildly annoying with a high risk of sperm in the eye, but some guys like it.
Yeah, your husband is a douche. Straight up. And what kind of adult has the mindset of "he should never perform it on you again unless you quit being selfish"? Are you a teenager? You kind of sound like one.
OP, I would give it a try. I didn't want to do it at all either and was certain I would get sick but I didn't and I don't. No one should ever feel pressured into a sexual act, even in marriage.
Ladies, I am new to this forum and I see such aggresion in some of these posts. We need to be uplifting and encouraging:)
Anyway, I see where the OP is coming from. A few of my gf's feel the same way. However, I love to give my hubby a BJ and taste him like he tastes me.:). I like to please him and will go the extra mile.
Nope I just finish it. I love him to let me finish when he goes down on me...so I do the same for him. Maybe have him tell you when he is about to come and only stop then, so it isn't in your mouth (if you haven't done that already). Otherwise I'm not sure what would help, maybe try it once and see if it isn't as bad as you think.
Oh, and see you over on 12-24 months soon!
I'm not being judgey, just offering some advice:
1) The taste can be laregly diet dependant... a crappy diet (high in fats, meat, alcohol) can cause it to taste nasty. More fruits and veggies = really not offensive at all.
2) It used to make me GAG (and my H often tells me not to finish, but he's a nice guy, so I wanted to do it for him more often), but I sucked it up a few times and one day it just didn't bother me at all. I don't know if I just got used to it, but the first time was totally disgusting to me and four or five times later, no big deal.
I will say though that it was definitely MY choice and that made it easier also. If H asked and I hated it, it probably would have been harder.