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Happy Festivus!! Air your Grievances or Confessions!
DH and I have no interest in traveling this holiday, we were up till midnight last night getting ready for our Hoilday Shuffle to two different states and loading up the car, dogs etc. Next year we are staying home and people can come to us, we've traveled for all the holidays this year, and for most of them in our dating/marriage life.
I fee bad as we love to see family, but we just are sick of traveling.
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Re: Happy Festivus!! Air your Grievances or Confessions!
He is off work today. I am not. I said from the beginning that DS will not go to any kind of babysitter if one of us is off work. That includes aunts/grammy/regular sitter.
This is also the first time DH has ever had to take care of DS for more than 5 minutes while I heat a bottle. I got up for work this morning, DS woke up about 7:30, DH got mad because he wanted to sleep in later.
DH asked if I could make up Levi's cereal before I left...so I did. He also ask that I call and make DS a doctor appt because he has a horrible cough and a snotty nose. I think I gave him my cold. I told him I'd let him know what time the appointment was so he could meet me there. He went off. He doesn't know why I can't come home, get DS, and then drive BACK to town for the appointment.
I told him that made no sense and there's no reason why he shouldn't be able to meet me there. Then he got mad and said he's never doing this again. I replied back with "So much for being the SAHD that you said you wanted to be" and he replied with "Yeah I realize now I don't want to do it" My retort was "It's sad that you decide that only after 5 minutes with him:" His response was "I can tell you it's not happening again"...
I was pi$$ed...I just walked out and came to work.
I'm so excited for this!
I'm really irritated that I caught a cold two days before Christmas, and three days before my family baby shower. Instead of being productive on my day off, I am holed up on the couch, overdosing on orange juice and tea. Blah.
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Feel better Amber! I've suddenly caught a wicked cough myself, so I can totally relate. Except, I'm stuck at work til 4:45pm.
AND, DH and I also decided that if we ever do have kids, people can come to us for the holidays too. I feel like the hustle and bustle of the traveling takes away from the magic of the season and it's not a stress I want to deal with anymore.
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ooh no BFF - you're not feeling better?? booo. I hope it's gone soon!!
I'm being a Scrooge about Christmas Day and the day after (our Christmas with my ILs). not really a scrooge, but I don't feel like planning dinner out. I hate that I feel this way because I LOOOOOVE Christmas, but all week Tim's been asking about Christmas dinner and I just am blah about it. Then his mom called asking what we want for dinner and I just wanted to be like, you're hosting us that day, you know what we eat, cook something and we'll be good. I'm not usually like this and I'm mad at myself for even thinking it.
Ugh, feel better yourself too!
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Grievances: I am pi$$ed at DH for not clearing the snow out Monday or last night. I don't care if he was out late having sushi and drinks with coworkers. I was baking and snow-removal is a blue job. I got stuck in the driveway this morning and you'd think I was asking him to cut off a foot when I asked for help. Meanwhile my 150lb (but so hot) neighbor from across the street was offering to help push me out (which is dangerous and impossible as our driveway is so steep). Finally DH got me out with salt, the car floor mats and lots of cursing. Now our driveway will probably be an icy mess until April.
Confession: I hate prime rib and that is what DH's mom is making for xmas dinner. He told her I hate it and that she shouldn't make it. But she really wanted to make it. She called me herself to ask if it was ok to serve and of course I said it was fine. I will just eat desserts. hah.
I'm annoyed with the shuffle, splitting time, going here and going there. I also hate that I have to work on Christmas, I know I work in food service but people will survive if I am not here on Christmas Eve.
I agree about the baby thing, this is one thing I am going to put my foot down about even when they are young, JT thinks it's okay to go somewhere later on in the day but I'm not going anywhere.
I love Christmas time but everyone seems to be set of ruining it for me.
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Our compromise was that we will still drive up to NJ Christmas day for a few years (because his grandparents aren't well enough to travel down here), but spend Christmas Eve in our house. If I stay at the same job, I will need to work 12/26 in a few years so that will be the year we stop travelling at all.
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Claire- I eat dessert for Christmas as well as I don't eat most of what is served... I am making a few dishes this year though so I know I'll have enough. In years past, I've packed peanut butter crackers and ate those!
I'm annoyed at DH- he's home for the week and wanted to sleep in today... so he refused to take the trash out. I take it out every week but it's his thing when he's actually home. He better do it next week because otherwise we'll have 3 weeks of trash accumulated.
I hope my SIL drugs her younger dog this weekend (he's really out of control)-- I really don't want her to drug him... but I don't want him chasing Dewey when he's still recovering from surgery. And the f'ing dog is 70 lbs and jumps on your back when you're sitting on the couch because she taught him to do piggy back rides when he was younger. Awesome.
Also to b!tch about husbands, mine just sits there while I run around doing things every evening, I work longer hours then him but still don't really sit down until 10 pm while he lays around or plays xbox. He told me he'd vacuum today and pick up after himself, so help me God if that isn't done by the time I get home today I'm kicking him out and cancelling Christmas.
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What the hell, MIL. We've been calling for weeks trying to get you to call us back to figure out Christmas. Pat leaves another message yesterday and your write us an EMAIL back wishing us a merry Christmas but that you've already got plans on Sunday so you'll have to see us after the new year????
For real?
I am so hurt and so hurt for Pat and I'd really like to get to the bottom of what the problem is.
For the record, here is her exact email to us, because I'm pissed and feel like being petty:
Hi Pat and Jaime,
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WTF??
Jaime-I agree WTF?? Didn't you not see them for Thanksgiving as well? Has Pat called them to see what the deal is? At least they aren't whining that you aren't coming up:)
Another vent- I know how lucky I am to work from home and have the flexibility that I do, I value it so much. BUT I hate being the one who gets to load/pack the car and get everything ready. It is such a pain, and honestly w/ two dogs, ski stuff, christmas stuff we are packed to the rim! We have the rocket box on top of the Jeep for the skis and stuff, but seriously there is no more room! DH never has to pack the car as he's at work. He does unpack it, but there is far less stuff when we get home. I'd rather do it know so it's done and we can get on the road when he gets home, but still it's a pain.
We will need a much bigger car (tahoe maybe) if we ever have a kid as there is literally no room in the Jeep for anything else!
Jaime- that's really sad
Seriously WTF????
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Well mine is I caved and we are going to Christmas tomorrow night with the Inlaws. Dh did call his mom which got really no where. But she did send me an email (got it this morning) saying that it was a misunderstanding and that she wasnt trying to hurt me the way she did.
The email she sent me
Wendy,
I think there has been a misunderstanding. Dad and I are not getting ?gifts? for the grandkids, we are giving money which your children are included. We will not be giving a gift ? a present to open. So when the other children are getting gifts from their Godparents I didn?t want your children to feel left out (I see this on their faces), that is why I suggested to Garett that you bring them a gift to open here as part of their Christmas. Only a suggestion ? it is always up to you to do as you wish. Your children are always welcome here and Gailen and I are hurt that you don?t think we want them here. We have tried hard to always include them and help them to feel welcome. Actually I would like it if they would come more often when the others are not here so we could spend more quality time with them. When there is a houseful I always feel like I don?t get to spend enough time with anyone. I am sorry for causing you hurt feelings but know that no ill intention was meant. I don?t always explain myself very well. I am very sorry for all of this confusion.
Sincerely,
Mary Lu
WTF???
Wendy - I'm glad she sent that email and things got cleared up. Sounds like it really was a misunderstanding.
Thanks guys - I'm glad I'm not alone in thinking her immature behavior is ridiculous. Pat thinks it's because he didn't call his aunts on their birthdays in November and she's mad at him. Really? He's never called them, get over it. Yes, it would have been nice if he had...but it's not his way (mine either, I don't call my aunts). She needs to grow up and I'm pissed at her for ruining this because we've bought them GREAT gifts that I was really excited to give them.
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Wendy-I'm glad you MIL sent you that email, it sounds like it was truly a misunderstanding, and she was trying to look out for your kids, but just didn't explain it very well at all in the beginning. As someone who has step-family, and Dh also has step-family it can get crazy/confusing and feelings are always hurt even if it isn't intentional. Maybe it will open the door to have a better relationship with them and better communication??
I hope you guys have a nice Holiday!
This is so weird to me- I'm sorry she is acting like this! I can't imagine not wanting to see my children on/around Christmas. I feel sorry for Pat too.....:(
This is so weird to me- I'm sorry she is acting like this! I can't imagine not wanting to see my children on/around Christmas. I feel sorry for Pat too.....:(
Jaime, that email from your MIL is completely ridiculous! Seriously what mother won't see her child over the holidays? Rearrange your plans lady!
I hope everything goes smoothly for you too Wendy!
I totally haven't been in the Christmas spirit this year and it's been making me really annoyed with myself! Christmas has typically been my favourite time of the year, but this year I'm just not feeling it. Maybe it's cuz I've been so ill and stressed about not being at work and such. But even in our new place here we can't put up much for decorations cuz there's just no where to put them and had to downsize to a 4' tree (instead of our typical 7' one). We still haven't even got our light up outside. I finally put up the garlands, but it seems too little too late. DH's family really isn't into Christmas so he's not much for decorations.
This is also the first year in my whole life that I won't have Christmas dinner with my family. My grandma keeps making a big deal of it too and telling all her friends that we must not like her cuz we're not spending Christmas evening with her. Really? We haven't spend Christmas with DH's family the whole time we've been together! That's 5 years! We're still going to my mom's for brunch and the whole afternoon, and my grandma will be there. Plus we'll be going to church on Christmas Eve and we've invited my family (mom, grandma, sis & her bf) over to our house after. We even invited my uncle who doesn't celebrate Christmas! Grrrr.
Jaime, that email from your MIL is completely ridiculous! Seriously what mother won't see her child over the holidays? Rearrange your plans lady!
I hope everything goes smoothly for you too Wendy!
I totally haven't been in the Christmas spirit this year and it's been making me really annoyed with myself! Christmas has typically been my favourite time of the year, but this year I'm just not feeling it. Maybe it's cuz I've been so ill and stressed about not being at work and such. But even in our new place here we can't put up much for decorations cuz there's just no where to put them and had to downsize to a 4' tree (instead of our typical 7' one). We still haven't even got our light up outside. I finally put up the garlands, but it seems too little too late. DH's family really isn't into Christmas so he's not much for decorations, so he doesn't even care!
This is also the first year in my whole life that I won't have Christmas dinner with my family. My grandma keeps making a big deal of it too and telling all her friends that we must not like her cuz we're not spending Christmas evening with her. Really? We haven't spend Christmas with DH's family the whole time we've been together! That's 5 years! We're still going to my mom's for brunch and the whole afternoon, and my grandma will be there. Plus we'll be going to church on Christmas Eve and we've invited my family (mom, grandma, sis & her bf) over to our house after. We even invited my uncle who doesn't celebrate Christmas! Grrrr.
Jaime I'm so sorry to hear that your MIL is being like this. Hopefully your MIL will realize how much she has hurt you guys and apologize.
Wendy I'm glad to hear your MIL has apologized. I hope that this misunderstanding doesn't happen again. I have been thinking about it alot.
My vent is this DH and I agreed that we would do Christmas Eve at my parents and Christmas Day at his. Then because my mom is amazing she invited the ILs to Christmas Eve too. They still aren't sure if they are going to come or not because MIL will be so busy getting ready for the next day. So I am giving up my FAVORITE part of Christmas at my parents house (Christmas brunch) because we agreed we would only see each side one day. Then my mom invited them like I just said. BUT NOW.... DH wants to stop by his parents for a couple hours on our way into my parents. "To help so that maybe they will come to Christmas Eve" How may I ask is it fair to go over to your parents and see them twice and not my family? I'm so sad about that. But I may have a way to get out of it because we have to get my Gram to bring her to moms and she is closer to us than the ILs. I may be being pety but I don't care.
Jaime that email is just sad. WTF?
So I'm not at all excited to go to Texas for 10 days. My MIL and I had a huge blowout fight when she was here over the summer, and I haven't seen her since. We are spending 4 days at her house. Luckily we have a LOT planned so I don't have to see her very much. I'm sad for DH that I feel this way, but the woman is just not right. (Confession: DH really wanted to be with his family on Christmas for once (since we've been together we're always w/ my family) but I told him that's not really an option for me. He was then thinking about going down a few days before me, so he could be there for Christmas. Ummm, it's only our 3rd married Christmas and you're willing to spend it away from me? Um, no. So I got all upset, and explained to him that I didn't want to be with people that really don't like me on Christmas (his family) when the other option was being surrounded with people that love me & him as well (my family). I'm quite pleased that he'll be here with me and we can see my family, then leave for TX on Monday) I don't really feel bad about him not being able to be with his family on Christmas, they're just not nice...
WTF is up with our families this year?!?!
I am miffed that I have to spend about $700 on my car when I was only expecting to pay $200. My car is only 4 yrs old but all the original parts are starting to need to be replaced (like the brake pads and a new battery). Ugh, well thank god for our e-fund but I hate dipping into that.
Other than that, this holiday season is actually going to be a good one. We will be spending most of our time with my family this year and less with the IL's.
I have a co-irker grievance...we have 3 new neighbors on the row next to mine at work. They got moved from another office to our floor and they brought their germs with them. I come into the office on Monday to hear the one that sits closest to me talking on her phone to a friend about how she has a horrible cold and sinus thing going on, but the dr said it was a virus and antibiotics wouldn't help her out. Oh and her whole family has it and her kids were going to the doctor that afternoon. She then proceeds to sniff, cough, and blow her nose (loudly) the next two days I'm at work. Um, if you have a freakin' virus that can't be treated with drugs...STAY the F HOME!
Two days later I got her virus AND so did Mariela. If my LO isn't better before her first Christmas so help me God there could be fighting words when I go back in the office on Tuesday. The worst part is that I can't take much for my cold b/c I'm still nursing and my attempt at the neti pot yesterday got me an earful of saline solution. I will try the neti pot again tonight, but I'm scared to take the one decongestant that is relatively safe while BFing b/c it can lower your supply (it doesn't discriminate among which fluids it's drying up in your system). I also think it's totally inconsiderate as my other neighbor (who sits next to this germ lady) just got back into work on Monday from maternity leave and she has an 8 week old at home. I really hope she doesn't catch it and give it to her new baby.