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Christmas/Inlaw related
Last year we spent XMas at my IL's.... this year we are spending it with my family. I am/was super excited. My in laws and I don't get along well. His MIL in particular is very demanding and condescending. Fortunately, they live in TX so I don't see them that often. I've acually felt bad in a way that neither of his parents have spoken to me since August. There are a few reaons why we havent spoken... like his mom hiding 5K from his fil to give to us as a gift, and us not accepting it unless his dad knew (she freaked out on us about this saying we are "holier than though"), they drove up this summer to visit and said they stay a monday-thursday... I threw a surprise BBQ for MIL while htey were here and overheard her telling people they were staying for WEEKS longer. When DH asked them about it after the party they freaked and said we were "unwelcoming" They also stiffed my dad and husband on some of the bills for the wedding that FIL said he would cover. They also have asked me numerous times to be baptised to become a born again. I am catholic and have said no.... just things like this.
Well this year it was my families turn for XMas. So far his parents sent us a card (thats it...not that I'm looking for a box of presents or something more,but it was just sad. They didn't even write more in the card than just their names.) We called them this morning to wish them a happy xmas, and his parents didn't ask to talk to me or wish me a merry christmas. His mom even started crying saying how I stole him away. The thing that pissed me off the most was that they have a family traidition of having picture mugs. This year DH picked a pic of him and me from our honeymoon and put it on a mug that said MOM. She said that the gift would have been bettert if "it meant something coming from us, because we obviously hate her." DH got teary eyed and told her that saying thank you could have been fine, and then asked to talk to his dad again.
I'm just so done with them. I do not trust them, I dod not feel comfortable wtih them. Today was the last straw seeing how sad they made my husband. I feel so bad that this is the family I married into. I know that is terrible, and I know life isn't what you picture all the time... but I am big on family and feel so sad that this is how it is now. I've tried reaching out to them in cards, emails, letters and phone calls and do not get responses. DH is an only son,so I think that contributes. How would you all handle this? Am I totally over reacting about these situations? I hate the pit I get in my stomache when I think about them and these situations. I hate that my sweet DH feels so sad about it. He just keeps telling me how much they have changed over time. Ugh. Sorry for the vent.
On to a great day tomorrow...and an even better new year:)
Re: Christmas/Inlaw related
Wow! I'm so sorry that you and your DH have to go through this!!
I don't think you're over-reacting. Your DH is your family now and you don't want anything hurting him, i totally understand. I think you're doing the right thing by reaching out to them, but if you're not getting responses, i'd just keep it to holidays like birthdays, anniversaries and Xmas.
And you are blessed that they're so far away... 
I know that people change over time and it's a shame that they're acting this way. My parents are starting to get a little weird and it bothers me at times. Just be the bigger person until you *have* to say or do something.
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Yeah, that doesn't sound like a good situation. I would just let your H deal with whatever fallout occurs. Don't forget that they had choices in each of those situations. Sounds like they continually make the "wrong" choice. I mean wrong because they seem to not appreciate their son's happiness. I am always astounded at how people don't think of that as something worth standing up for and accepting.
The worst is them asking you to convert/baptize in their church. How awful.
I am very sorry. I wouldn't let your H's sadness make you change how you are. His sadness is because of them, not you.