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Valentines day...FML
So growing up, I loved Valentines day, and then in High School it was more of apathy toward the holiday, then one year I was proposed to on V-Day, and loved it, then I was dumped 2 weeks before my wedding, now I HATE V-Day (with good reason) and I was doing great this season with all the Christmas stuff and new years stuff, then I went into the grocery store recently and I turn the corner, and BAM!!! There is all the V-Day stuff. And it hit me like a ton of brick. I wasn't even thinking of V-Day. And usually on that day I get shiitface drunk. This year, I'm going to do my best to ignore it, does anyone have any great suggestions for a single gal who despises this 'holiday' now? And why you people in relationships need a friggin holiday to remind your self and each other you love one another is beyond me. Go buy flowers and chocolate on a random day, it will be more special that way.
Re: Valentines day...FML
To get past it, I htink you need to see the day for what it really is- an overblown romantic day geared to get people to fork out a ton of money. Take it's "Power" away.
You're being cynical about it right now and "why people in relationships need this holiday", but obviously in the end, you see the holiday as a special day - that's why it has so much power.
Take that power away.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I totally agree with this. But, to look at things in another way, valentines day is about love. It doesn't have to be about the love between you and a SO. You could choose to focus on the love between you and anyone else in your world.
V-day really is what you make of it.
I don't hate the holiday - I just think it's importance is WAY overblown.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I like this idea
And that does sound like a good idea. And yeah, I get what you all are saying about taking the power out of the day. It just feels like it is getting shoved in my face. I can deal with the day to day alone-ness, but I just hate getting my face shoved in it. I can't remember the last time I was given flowers by a man. Or anything for that matter. It has just become irritating and exhausting now. Well thankfully its only one day and then after all the V-Day stuff is gone, it will be full of Easter stuff. I can handle Easter 
You need an attitude adjustment. Just b/c you don't like the holiday why do you feel nobody else should celebrate? I'm not sure why happy, in love people need advice on how to be romantic from someone obviously so bitter and unhappy. Get over yourself!
Hating V'day because you were proposed to on that day is a choice you make. Instead of "hating" valentine's day, why not hate the date you had planned your for your wedding? Or the day you were dumped? (which, btw, you should be thankful for - it's better than being unhappily married or divorced). That's a day that can come and go without you noticing it...it's not as if there is a huge buildup to August 11th (whatever day you were dumped / your wedding date).
You usually spend Feb 14th getting drunk? You've given Feb 14th too much power. Go volunteer somewhere on V'day. It will give you something to do and make you feel better about yourself.
You are making way too much out of a day that means nothing. Seriously move on with your life who cares that much about Valentines Day? My husband and I pretty much ignore it it now since our anniversary is the week after anyway. I guess I just don't remember hating it or even caring when I was single.
I think Valentine's Day is annoying and stupid, but I just ignore it. When I was single, I would usually get together with other single friends and watch movies or something - it wasn't an 'anti-Valentine's Day' theme or anything, just a normal girls' night. My husband feels the same way about Valentine's Day, so we just act like it's any other day. Usually I forget it's even a 'holiday' unless someone at work gives me candy or a card or something.
Edit: I was surprised to see the Valentine's display at Target two days after Christmas. People need over a month to plan and...um, decorate? I will admit, if I remember I will sometimes go to the store on the 15th and buy some half-priced chocolate.
As a teen my DS started referring to V-Day as Singles Awareness Day. He was wise beyond his years. The only thing I liked about it is the conversation hearts and they changed those last year. Now they are terrible! V-day was ruined for me.
In truth, I can't even remember what DH and I did last V-Day. It just isn't particularly important to us and there is no way we are paying ridiculous prices for a set menu at some restaurant on that day.
I feel the exact same way as this! My FI and I dont celebrate Valentines Day or Sweetest Day. To us they are pointless Hallmark holidays and we really dont need a day one time a year to show our love for each other.
I think some ideas for you to avoid this holiday would be to get a group of friends together and go out for a girls night or have some friends over for game/movie night.
Are you serious???
This.
I don't have any particularly strong feelings about Valentines Day but I do think there are a lot of tragic, sad, depressing things going on and it is really, really easy to get bogged down by all of that. So, if you want to take a day to celebrate something happy and post red and pink hearts everywhere and eat a pound of chocolate, dress up in a sexy little number and celebrate love have at it!
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I?m so sorry that Valentine?s Day holds bad memories for you. For me I have always loved Valentine?s Day because that was my dad?s birthday. My DH proposed to me on Valentine?s Day when all of the family was together celebrating my dad?s birthday. I was so happy that my dad was there for such a special moment especially since he ended up passing away 17 days before our wedding.
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How about making the day special for someone else in your family.
Maybe spend some time with Granny, or babysit some kids (so their parents can go out) and have fun with the kids making valentines for their parents with junk you brought, like construction paper, ribbon, stickers, and related scraps.