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I am in a funk...
Well, here goes...
I am getting depressed. I feel like I should be SO amazingly happy... I JUST got married to the love of my life. We should be in happy newlywedded bliss. Maybe its because its winter and the winter "blahs" are setting in. IDK.
Mainly I am bummed because I am 28 years old, I have a college education (with looming student loan debt), my husband is going to be 30 next month, and we have no health insurance coverage. And so long as we have no health ins he says we cant even think about babies. But, I think about them alot. I wanted to be done having kids by 30 (pipe-dreams, I know). I am in a dead end job with no chance for advancement and my industry is "dying" in this city. There are LITERALLY no jobs to apply for and the minute one pops up you are applying with about 400 other ppl. Its insane.
I JUST bought a house a year ago. I feel like im stuck here. With no oppurtunites, no chance of advancing my career, and no babies. Sorry for this pity-party rant. I guess im just feeling sorry for myself...
Thanks for listening/reading. 
Re: I am in a funk...
I've been in a funk for about 6 months. And I'm in the middle of planning a wedding and have some other exciting things going on in my life, I shouldn't be this way either! I'm always tired and very moody. I feel so bad for my FI having to deal with me. I think mine is due to my job though, which I am miserable at.
Anyways, I just wanted to let you know, I feel your pain. I decided 2011 was going to be my year and nothing was going to be bad about it. I'm trying to force myself out of the funk. So, what I'm doing now is whenever I start to get horribly moody (more than every day moody haha) I go do a hard work out. It's been helping... so far....
Everytime I go to work out, I'm going to think of you and hope your day is going good and something happened to uplift you
Funks really suck, don't they?!
I know the feeling of being 'stuck' in so many ways and I definitely feel for you!! It's especially frustrating when most of the things that are making you unhappy are things that are out of your control! 
Just know that it WILL get better!
Keep plugging along employment-wise, and apply for every job that interests you. The right one will come along, though it may take time.
As for your life outside of work... try taking up a new hobby or class. Do some volunteering (it always makes me feel GREAT!). Set up more girls nights and date nights. Although you'd love to be having babies right now, it's not the right time just yet, so take this time to really enjoy all of the things that will have to be cut back once you do have babies!
And as for the 'overall', I have found that the most important thing for me is to focus on my own attitude rather than what's going on around me. Things can be great or things can be terrible but that's not what matters. What matters is how I handle those things and the attitude I take about them. Sure there will be days where I'm grumpy or frustrated or sad, but I have to remind myself to suck it up, keep my chin up and keep smiling.
(Sorry if that was cheese-a-riffic!)
Happnes to all of us. I know I have gone thru my fair share of 'the funk".
I always try to tell myself "it's not so bad. Remember there are people who have it worse than you." Even recenlty when I lost my grandma. I was in the worse funk, understandable, of course, but I just told myself she was in a better place and there were people out there who were in worse situations than me.
And I also know how it feels to be unhappy with your job. I spent two miserable years with the crazy irishman b/c I felt as thou I needed a job to provide for my family. Turns out, that wasn't it at all.
And I leave you with one thing and I tell eveyone this "god wouldn't bring you to it, if he couldn't get you thru it" Chin up, sister!