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Judgy Mc Judge-r-son
OK, so the past week I've found myself to be very judgemental and I need an outlet for it. So, feel free to post your judgements, FLAME FREE, and get it out there!
Disclaimer- I will start this by saying I'm a little bitter today. I had a girls night planned for this saturday (planned for 2 weeks now) at my place. The girls were going to come over for dinner, we were going to drink, have a game night, etc. I was told last night that they are cancelling b/c they would rather go watch the football game at a bar. I said that we could watch the game at the house. But, no, they want to go out. Even though the point of having girls night was b/c none of them have any money right now.
I am the only married one in my group of girlfriends. We range in ages of 29-44. I'm having a hard time watching my single girlfriends go out and act like idiots. One of them (aged 38) went out a couple weeks ago, by herself, on a Tuesday. Got so completely wasted that she ended up dancing on the bar......on a tuesday......and had to be driven home. They all complain about how little money they have yet they go out 2-4 times a week. When they do go out, it's drama-filled and lots of stupidity. (Driving drunk, random hook ups, arguing, fighting, etc.)
I was single before. I drank a lot. I had a good time. But I was 23 years old. At some point don't you need to grow up? I'm not saying you can't go out and have a good time. But I think 38 with 2 kids is too old to be going out by yourself during the week and getting to the point where you're dancing on bar.
I love my friends and want to see them happy. But c'mon!! No one is going to want to date you when you act like an idiot all the dang time!
Ok, that is my judgement for the day. REMEMBER- This is an outlet for flame free comments.
Who's next?
Re: Judgy Mc Judge-r-son
moleson i know how you feel. i used to be really close friends w/ a girl 20 years older than me and she did the samethings your 38yr old friend does! granted i was single and out drinking w/ her, but i was the responsible one. she moved away once i became serious w/ don and even though she says its not because of him i know deep down that it is. she couldn't be happy for me. i wasn't ignoring her, we still went out twice a week like we always did, but she just couldn't stand that i was happy. we talk now and then on FB, i even invited her to our wedding, but of course she didn't come OR send a card OR say congratulations!
my judgement...
my "boss" on paper (and i use boss very loosly) does nothing at work. seriously he comes in straight to his office 10-15 mins late every day. he starts everyday clipping his nails, going to get coffee, talking on his cell about the past weekends games or the upcoming games, then around 9 he gets up to check if ups or fedex has come and slowing checks it in, goes back to his office to get some dip, and goes back out to the warehouse to make some more personal calls. this is what he does daily in the mornings. each time he walks by me to his office he's constantly breathing hard and sniffling (acting like he's really cold and sick). when i come back from my lunch he signs out (right next to my desk) and always makes the comments "im so hungry, i cant wait any longer." like im going to say "oh no im sorry you cant go to lunch." come on, seriously, you do not need to plead your case to go to lunch! he takes an extra 10-15 mins for lunch than he should, every day. when someone doing sales asks him for help w/ cutting wire or w/ a customer he b!tches up a storm! when i transfer a call to him he gets pissy. and when he hangs up w/ the phone calls he complains about how he doesn't have time for all the calls b/c he's SO busy! i want to tell him, "yes, i call people and ask them to call into our store and specifically ask to talk to YOU and make YOU work" come on! what's sad is our branch manager hears, sees, and knows all of this and does NOTHING! why? because my "boss" has the branch manager dealing on his weekend poker games to make extra money. our branch manager has no balls to begin w/ but now that he's making some extra bucks thanks to my "boss" there's no way in heck he'll say anything! no one here comes to my "boss" to ask questions about how to do something in the system or what a policy is - they come to me! between me and our warehouse guy we do 98% of my "boss's" work! and whats even worse if that our headquarters knows this and no one does anything to stop it. it's pathetic. each day i get more and more irratated! and i get paid an ok amount and it's a 100% secure job so i can't leave right now w/ my current financial situation that i talked about yesterday. it just sucks balls!!!!!
end rant/judgement - i feel somewhat better
I judge parents who don't make their kids behave in public.
That's about all I've got right now...
I judge myself for feeling guilty because I want to quit a job that's making me miserable.
I also judge my boss because if I make one wrong step if/when I tell her I'm quitting, there's a good chance I will never work for this company again (even if it's on another show/department that would have absolutely nothing to do with her).
I second Rachel's parenting judge.
I've been browsing a lot of TK boards lately because this board has been so dead (I judge this board!) so I have a lot of WR judges:
-I judge people for thinking it's ok to scrimp on food and beverages for their guests so they can upgrade to a fancier videographer
-I judge the girl who is forcing her FI to do engagement pictures even though he doesn't want to do them thinks they're pointless, and defends it by saying something like 'guys aren't into the whole wedding thing, so you're basically forcing him to do a bunch of stuff he doesn't want to do, anyway, by having a wedding and not eloping' (total paraphrase)
-I judge people who bash other people's unique wedding ideas; for example, one girl wanted a Link and Zelda cake topper and another poster was all, "You should save that for her birthday". STFU.
I judge 20 something year olds who think that girls in their mid-30's should stay home. We're not dead yet.
Seriously though...so what if they still want to go out and have a good time? Do they have families at home that are suffering? I plan to go clubbing as long as I can get my saggy ass through the door. And I've tabled danced as recently as this past summer.
Sometimes it's more fun to go out than to stay at someone's house. You get to meet new people and show off how cute you look that day etc etc.
I will say though - it's lame to promise to do something as a group then have them all gang bail on you.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=grbSQ6O6kbs
Fast Forward to the 1 min mark. That's the first thing that popped into my head.
The Princess of Anything is Coming!
Had a dream I was queen.
Woke up. Still queen.
So after the wedding we went to last weekend, I woke up with a broken blood vessel in my eye (I think). First time! Anyway, H's joke is that it's hard on the eyes to look down on people.
What I was complaining about: Another set of H's friends just had a baby. The husband came to the wedding we attended, but wife (with a week-old baby) did not. We stopped by to see the baby the next day. The husband was saying that the wife isn't breastfeeding, because 'it might be better, but it's not better enough to make it worth the hassle.' Um, okay. I get that it's a personal decision, and not everyone can breastfeed, and it's not as easy as people think, but I think it really is that much better. And also: he joked that wife isn't getting any sleep, but he is. WTF? If she's not breastfeeding, why isn't HE also handling the middle of the night fussiness/feedings?
I also judge parents who don't have good parenting skills. One of which is my aunt
. She isn't really to blame since she's a single mother and the kids have never had a father figure in their lives, but geez sometimes these kids are off the hook! I used to babysit them regularly, and this is one reason I don't want kids. Don't get me wrong, I love them and they can behave at times, but when they don't behave they are pretty bad.
Ok, so here it goes. I'm 29 (so i'm not that far off from 30's). I'm not saying that people in their mid 30's need to stay home. I'm saying they need to not go out and make themselves look like whorebags. I understand that it's nice to go out, HOWEVER when you *** that you don't have any money but then you go out 3-4 times a week, I really don't want to hear it. I also don't want to hear about how the bartendar that you've been sleeping with wants nothing to do with you after your dancing on the bar on a tuesday night.
Ditto!
Agreed!
I judge...right now I cant think of anything to judge. Things I usually judge are skanks, republicans, smokers, and skinny pretty bltches. but today i guess i am feeling kind and loving, and not judging.
OH, here is who i judge:
the young woman at the p.chops who was probably 25. who was stick skinny with really bad hair and neck tattoos that had $ all over it and a quote. and rips in her jeans so that you could so her a$$. literally, not exaggerating. and she reeked of ciggies. and she was with her 6 year old daughter who must have weighed 100 pounds. and was eating french fries (the daughter, not the mom). it was a perfect example of bad parenting--you weigh 80 pounds, have your a$$ hanging out, smoke ciggs, etc, and your daughter is severely overweight. i openly stared at her all throughout the store. and looked in her cart to see what she was buying (junk). and judged her even more for using food stamps when she has all these huge ugly tattoos and fake nails.
end judge.
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i judge people who get married after only being w/ their SO for a few months b/c IMHO there's no way you full know that person enough to make that kind of lifetime commitment. i also judge people who get married on their lunch hour (ie - SIL)
Shut up!! Seriously?!?!?!
100% serious
they met at a bar, 2 weeks later BIL got thrown in jail for a fight, SIL bailed him out (xmas eve), 1 month later she called him from work and asked what he was doing for lunch...they went to the courthouse on her lunch hour and got married. none of the family knew. that was 4 yrs ago and they're still together.
People like bitching...it's a fact of life. Witness this entire thread
I take personal offense to this! I qualify for at least two of these. hahaha
I think you're a pretty bltch too FYI.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
This is more of a vent than a judge but this thread is pretty much a b!tch fest so I'm gonna post anyway. DH is really pissing me off. We have to pick out pictures for the album and it's $100 for each additional spread. He wants the photog to squeeze in more pics but he won't because he doesn't want to add pics just to add pics and bc he wants to tell a "story". I get it. I also get he wants to make money. DH is being a cheapo and doesn't want to spend any money since we're piss poor. My issue is that we can't ever had any more pics to the album. If we could, I would say to wait but we can't. So suck it up and let's get a good album. I don't want to say oh I wish this was in our album but because of money we didn't. Plus the photog can do payment plans.
Bottom line is we can't make the photog budge. F*cking make it work DH! Apparently save $50 is too much because it can go to loans and bills but $75 dollars for him to play flag football once a week for 8 weeks. I'll even get a third f'ing job for christ sake. GIVE ME MY GOD DAMN PHOTO ALBUM!!!!
And then hit up a drive-thru for their reception? gotta get back to work on time...
I'm amazed that 4 years later they're still together! Holy crapoli.
yeah im w/ you...id want a better photo album to have for years to come and if it meant pinching pennies for a little bit now then i would
LOL - I didn't think about that, but they probably did!!!
It wasn't the most blissful 4 years, but they've come out of it together and better which is good for their 3 yr old daughter!
She was my MOH and he was Don's BM...she kept asking me how much things costed since they never had a wedding. I know she was insanely jealous, but no one made her go to the courthouse on her lunch break and get hitched!
Call me kuckoo, but I think there is something kinda perversely sweet about a couple who were so sure about how they felt about each other that had the guts to do something like that.
Some people wait years to get married and they don't last that long.
I say go you jail breaking fools!
And Diana, I'm with you! go get your album!
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!
I judge my corporate offices for forcing me to work during snowpocolypse.
I'm posting back what laura said....we had a Princess Daisy and Wario cake topper... I judge people who judge me by my unique (albeit cheap) wedding style. I was DEF an offbeat bride.....and judge people that have a "cookie cutter" perfect wedding......BOOOOORING.
I also judge people that get mad at God when something doesn't go right but NEVER go to church or at least say thank you when something is AWESOME!!
Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
Ferds - the cake topper post made me think of you! I found this one and thought it was AWESOME:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/58199069/hylian-and-princess-wedding-cake-topper?ref=sr_list_3&ga_search_query=zelda+cake&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=&order=&includes[0]=tags&includes[1]=title&filter[0]=handmade
LOVE This one!!!!!
Swooon!
Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
I read this earlier in the day but couldn't think of anything until I saw someone elses post.
I judge couples who have to do e.v.e.r.y little thing together. Have no friends of their own, only people they are both friends with. No girls nights or guys nights, only do stuff together. I think in my own head.....Get your own life!!! It's ok to not be around your SO for more than an hour. It gets me so annoyed!!
Maybe it's just me, but I would get annoyed if Hubs and I did EVERYthing together! He does his thing, I do mine. I think the time apart helps to have a healthy relationship. (At least for us anyway).