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Birth Control???
I have been on birth control for 10 years ( OMG just realized how long it has been) and for the past yearish I have had NO sex drive. My Bf and I use condoms, and dont have very much sex (bc I'm never in the mood) and I was wondering if you guys thought if going off the pill would help with that.
OR has anyone ever heard that being on the pill for that long could cause problems TTC down the road?
Thanks Ladies! Happy Hump Day (I WISH! =(
Re: Birth Control???
It seems that going off the pill helps many women gain their sex drive back. I don't think all birth control causes low sex drive though. Birth control is a bit of a trial and error system and every person will react differently to a certain kind. It can take a while to find one that works best for your body. For example, I've been on 3 different kinds (Loestrin, Seasonique, & Ortho Cyclen). I never had a problem with low sex drive on Loestrin or Ortho Cyclen, but Seasonique made my sex drive lower and made it hard for me to climax. My sex drive did increase in the time I was off of Seasonique and not taking any BCP.
In terms of being on the pill for a long time and TTC, I have heard that there can be some problems with it. But every person is different. I've heard of women who were on it for ages and got pregnant immediately. I was on BC for 9 years before deciding to take a break and I had different issues when I stopped (headaches, anxiety, racing heart, etc). I was on it from a very young age, though, so that may have contributed to my problems.
I was on the birth control Aleese for about 5 years. My sex drive started to decrease; I was diagnosed with PMDD and my heart rate when increase rapidly at random times. I then switched to Lo-Estrin and was on that for about 4 months-my symptoms seemed to decrease the first month, then suddenly got worse. I decided to go off all birth control, I've been off for about 4 months now. My sex drive has gotten a little better. My body has been adjusting and the first month off the pill was hard....PMDD was worse and my cycle would come at random times during the month- it seems to be coming a week earlier every month. I do not want to become pregnant, so we use condoms but I am still concerned. Overall I do feel better being off the pill, it's helped my sex drive a little so far (at one point I didn't want my husband even talking to me about sex let alone being intimate with him.) My sex drive is starting to come back, and I noticed intercourse does not hurt as much also.
But again, like others said, everyone reacts differently. The first couple months you are off the pill may be difficult for your body to adjust. Talk to your gyno there could be other options like the Nova Ring maybe for you.
I went off BCP 2 1/2 years ago because of the same problems you have. I switched to FAM (Fertility Awareness Method) and it has been wonderful! There is a learning curve but after a couple of cycles it was so easy and I couldn't imagine ever going back to the pill. It could work well for you and your Bf because you already use condoms.
If you have never heard of it basically you chart your morning temperature and cervical fluid and you track your ovulation. After you are used to charting and feel comfortable with the process you can go without protection when you aren't in your fertile period (for me it starts about 5 days after my period ends and lasts about a week and a half) but it varies for each woman. It sounds difficult but it really isnt. I would highly reccommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Even if you decide this isn't your thing, by reading the book you learn so much about your cycles and your body.
If you have any questions send me a PM.
Good Luck!!