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WWYD
Sorry if this gets long...I'll try to keep it short. This week, I am 23 weeks, and things have been SO tough since I became pregnant. I still have nausea/vomiting, and have been in the hospital twice so far. I have had a really rough time with not feeling well. Due to all this, it is really effecting my work. I teach 3rd grade, and it is extremely hard to deal with 8 y/os all day, be on my feet, meet all these deadlines, etc, etc...(plus this is my first year of teaching on top of it all!). I have already used half of my sick days, and get no FMLA, nadda, when the baby comes.
So, I woke up with bad stomach cramps this morning, called in to work and called my Dr. My principal responds with telling me I need to be more considerate about my teammates (who she reminds me are trying to help me out), and denies a half day I had put in for later on this month. I am just super overwhelmed with everything and it really feels like it is crashing down on me. I really don't know how to handle work and my health! Help!
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Re: WWYD
Remember to put your health and the health of your baby first. If you really need that half day that she did not approve then I would call in sick that morning. The worst possible thing that could happen is that you'll get pink slipped at the end of the school year. If , God forbid, that happens then I'm sure you'll be able to find another job.
Also, talk to the other teachers in your team and tell them your situation. They should be able to understand. If they don't then SCREW THEM!
It seems like your job would comply with the Family and Medical Leave Act since the school system likely has more than 50 employees. Are you sure that they don't have to comply at all?
I would check into that. Also, do you have short term disability? I'm sorry you aren't feeling so well! I've been sick myself. Luckily (or unluckily, however you look into it) I've been sick mostly at night so it hasn't interferred with work too much, other than just feeling like crap.
If you have a doctor that might sign off on your being on bed rest... if you are that bad off.. then the school would have to let you stay at home until this stage passes. (If it does.)
Are you on Zofran? After I got a prescription for Zofran and another prescription I take at night things have gotten a lot better.
Hmm...I don't know! I mean, I have never been pregnant, so I have no idea what all the symptoms feel like and how it affects you. I mean, I know it doesn't sound good! And I know when I don't feel good, I really don't feel good....so I can only imagine!
Are you considering turning in your resignation? Is it to that point? Have you sat down and really talked to your principal about what is going on with you? If you haven't really sat down with her and talked things out, then I might try that, and just explain that you really want to excel at your job and you appreciate it, but at the same time, you are having a really tough pregnancy and you want to find some solutions. Maybe have a sub on standby or something? I don't know how the teaching thing works either...so excuse my ignorance.
If you have to "tough it out", I would make your DH carry around a watermelon every day and see how it feels. I don't think men can sympathize. I think if you can't level with the principal and other members on your team-- you need to let him know it's more stress than its worth.
It sounds like you need to talk to your DH and reasses the situation. If you're still that sick and your principal isn't working w/ you in terms of needing to be off it may be easier to go ahead and resign. That's if you plan to SAH.
Have you looked into subbing in the meantime? Maybe that's a compromise for the interim. Since you're a trained teacher you'll be in demand and you can pick and choose when you work. If you have a dr.s appointment you just don't sub that day. Or if you're not feeling well the night before don't take a job for the next day. I did it while I was job hunting b/c I could go on interviews easier.
Good luck and feel better soon!
Personally, it sounds like you should just meet with the principal and discuss everything. It's not fair to the children you teach or to your health if you continue this way. Especially if you're planning on not going back after February - I would make sure everything is laid out right now with your boss and he or she understands your position and your intentions so that you can both plan accordingly.
I'm with Lauren on this being outside my relm of understanding
but it seems like you got some great things to think on. The sub. position and getting the dr. involved seems like great ideas. I know this is hard on you and your students (esp. if you are not planning on going back)so maybe after your appt. today you can have a talk with the principle.
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this!!! I will be praying for you!
First I am so sorry you are so sick. I don't fully understand how you feel b/c I haven't been throw up sick. I do understand how tired you feel though. Its very hard to stand up on your feet for long periods!!!!!
As far as Short Term disability.......you were pg before you started this job so you don't qualify for it????
I agree with pp and just talk with DH about how you feel and all the options. You can't continue to go to work like this. You DON"T want to put you or your baby in danger from overdoing it either.