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This is probably a dumb question, but WWYD?
I've posted recently that I'm throwing a surprise 30th birthday party for DH in February. Well, DH and I share the same birthdate, but he is one year oldler than I am. So, he turns 30 on Feb. 23 this year, and I turn 30 on Feb. 23 of next year. Well, I've mentioned to a few people about the party (people important to us that I wanted to clear the date with), and everyone keeps saying, "But wait, isn't it your brithday too? So, is it a party for both of you." I keep telling them that yes it is my birthday too, but that I'm not having this party for both of us, just him for his 30th birthday. But they keep insisting that they are going to celebrate mine that day too.
Well, some of DH's coworkers are coming, and they don't know that we share a birthday. As far as they're concerned, and I would prefer it be this way completely, it's all about DH. I don't want anything about the day to be about me, and I keep telling people that, and I also think if people that feel that it should be about both of us say or do anything, it would be really awkward for those that don't know that we share a birthday.
So, my question is, how do I handle this and make sure it really is all about DH? DH and I have plans to go out with a couple of friends the day before our actual birthday (the party is the weekend after), and that's all I want for my birthday. Not everyone going to the party is going to dinner because it's just our best friends for dinner.
Re: This is probably a dumb question, but WWYD?
Since it's the people who are closest to you who are asking, just come right out and tell them, that yes it's your birthday, but since it's your H's 30th birthday you really want the attention on him since it's a milestone. Just tell them that there's a mixed crowd and you don't want others to feel funny if they didn't give you a card/gift/say happy birthday.
They should understand.
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first off, that's really sweet of you to make that day about him.
i think the best way to make your intentions known is through your invitation wording. make the invitation a birthday for him. and if people still ask you after they get "his birthday invitation" then just say it again "it's his 30th bday party".
you're doing a good job at it already it sounds like.
I'm sending out the invites tonight, and I took your advice (was just working on them) and made sure I put in several times "It's DH's 30th surprise birthday party!" both to get the point that it's all about him AND a surprise.