October 2010 Weddings
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F/U to brother moving out
Well, I have some bad news. My brother has applied at two places and gotten no's from both of them. There are limited places he can apply because he has a large dog so he is not optimistic. He has decided to apply for a loan to get a house now. Of course this makes me irritated because this usually is a long process even if he gets approved for the loan by early next week. Did I mention he has no money saved up for a down payment or closing costs? So it looks like he will be there for another couple of months. Or possibly if everything goes smoothly in less time than that. We shall see I guess...
Re: F/U to brother moving out
Booooooooo
I assume he'll be paying a significant amount of rent now in light of the discoveries of last week? So sorry to hear that you won't be getting your place back to yourselves.
I don't understand how he has no money saved for a down payment. He makes a decent amount per year, has no rent and has not had to buy groceries, and he said he has been paying down his bills. To me that = should have atleast SOMETHING saved.
That totally sucks, I know how excited you were that the time was nearing for him to get out. My fingers are crossed that he is able to get a loan and find a house ASAP!
Oh, and, didn't he just do his taxes? What about his refund? He could use that for closing costs!
Ugh, Heather that sucks. I'm so sorry. I saw the subject line & got all hopeful for you, but then I read the actual post & now I'm just bummed out on your behalf.
Hopefully he'll start contributing though. Is there any way you can approach him & make it clear that he HAS to start helping out with expenses? Idk how I would word it, but there's got to be some way to make him understand that it's not optional.
It's not like you & your DH had a big talk, saved up money to start a family, TTC, and are now using your income to provide your baby with food & a place to live. This is a grown a$$ man who, quite honestly, should be a little more embarrassed to be freeloading off his sister & her new husband.
You're a better sister than me. If I were basically "raising" a full grown, fully functional sibling who was capable of paying his own way but choosing not to, I probably would have punched him & changed my locks by now. I'm so sorry he's doing this to you guys.
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I agree with ALLLLL of this. I was really hoping he'd move out, and I'm sure it would make you and YH so much happier. And you do have a lot more patience than I do, as I would have just kicked my brother out at this point.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you guys in hopes that he can somehow get a house/condo real soon.
I agree with Sara. You are MUCH nicer than I would be. If this were my brother I would give him 30 days to find a place before he was out on the streets. It's not like he doesn't have choices. There ARE places that take dogs and don't have strict requirements. And if necessary he could give the dog to another loving family (Although ultra-animal lovers may hate me for saying that. But as much as I love animals I believe that humans comes first.) IMO continuing to let him live there and negatively impact your marriage is enabling, and hurting him rather than helping.
I'm really sorry for the news that you got. I know that it is really frustrating for you.